I understand the rules of adding fractions perfectly well. I know how to find common denominators, and understand why adding fractions without common denominators doesn't make sense.
But, today someone asked me about adding $\frac{5}{6}$ and $\frac{21}{28}$. They were wondering why dividing the two factions and taking the average ($\frac{0.8333 + 0.75}{2} = 0.7917$) was giving them a different value than adding them together, and then dividing ($\frac{5}{6} + \frac{21}{28} = \frac{26}{34} = 0.7647$).
My initial reaction was the same as yours: I was taken aback by someone adding fractions in this way, and I gave a quick refresher of why this doesn't make sense, and how to properly add fractions.
I thought I had helped them fix their problem, until they gave more more context: The $\frac{5}{6}$ was five people in a group of six who were observed washing their hands after a certain activity. The $\frac{21}{28}$ was twenty-one out of twenty-eight people who were observed washing their hands after a certain activity. The goal was to find the total number of people who had washed their hands, as a fraction of the total number of observed people. So, $\frac{26}{34}$ is actually correct in this case.
But, I'm still having trouble reconciling this with what I know about fractions. At least, what I think I know. Is there a term for these sorts of fractions? This isn't like having five slices of a six-slice pizza combined with twenty-one slices of a twenty-eight-slice pizza. This is like having one oven holding six pizzas, five of which have mushrooms, and another (huge) oven holding twenty-eight pizzas, twenty-one of which have mushrooms. What fraction of the pizzas have mushrooms? Is it $\frac{5}{6} + \frac{21}{28}$ ? I don't think so.
Is there some terminology I'm forgetting here? Why am I getting so tripped up by this?
This is called the mediant of the two fractions - simply add the denominator and numerator separately.
The other approach, of adding the two fractions and dividing by two, is called the arithmetic mean.
The reason that the mediant is appropriate and the arithmetic mean is not is because you want to find the total number of pizzas with mushrooms out of both sets combined. Each of the fractions you mentioned gives you the proportion of pizzas with mushrooms just with respect to that individual subset of pizzas. So why would you add the two together, give them equal weighting towards the end result, and then divide by two?
If the two subsets of pizzas don't have the same size, you want to give the larger one more "weight" towards the end result, and the mediant does that properly. For a more generalized look at this topic, look at weighted averages.