$$\hat\beta_1 = \frac{\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i Y_i - \frac{1}{n} \sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i \sum_{i=1}^{n} Y_i}{\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i^2 - \frac{1}{n} (\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i)^2}$$
First I need to isolate $Y_i$
$$= \frac{\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i Y_i- \bar{X} \sum_{i=1}^{n} Y_i}{\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i^2 - \frac{1}{n} (\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i)^2}$$
$$= \frac{\sum_{i=1}^{n} Y_i(X_i - \bar{X})}{\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i^2 - \frac{1}{n} (\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i)^2}$$
now to factor the denominator into one
$$= \frac{\sum_{i=1}^{n} Y_i(X_i - \bar{X})}{\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i^2 - \frac{1}{n} (\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i)(\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i)}$$
$$= \frac{\sum_{i=1}^{n} Y_i(X_i - \bar{X})}{\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i^2 - \bar{X}(\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i)}$$
Factored $\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i$
$$= \frac{\sum_{i=1}^{n} Y_i(X_i - \bar{X})}{\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i (\sum_{i=1}^{n} X_i - \bar{X})}$$
yeah I don't know where to go from here the answer they got was
$$= \frac{\sum_{i=1}^{n} (X_i - \bar{X})Y_i}{\sum_{j=1}^{n} (X_j - \bar{X})^2}$$
now sure how $j$ comes in
The numerator is correct. For the denominator, your second last step $\left(\text{factoring }\displaystyle\sum_{i=1}^n X_i \right)$ is wrong. That is because $\displaystyle\sum_{i=1}^nX_i^2\neq \left(\sum_{i=1}^nX_i\right)^2.$
The correct steps should be
$$ \begin{aligned}\displaystyle\sum_{i=1}^nX_i^2-\bar{X}\left(\sum_{i=1}^nX_i\right)&=\sum_{i=1}^n(X_i-\bar{X}+\bar{X})^2-n\bar{X}^2 \\&=\sum_{i=1}^n(X_i-\bar{X})^2+2\bar{X}\left(\sum_{i=1}^n(X_i-\bar{X})\right)+n\bar{X}^2-n\bar{X}^2 \\&=\sum_{i=1}^n(X_i-\bar{X})^2=\sum_{j=1}^n(X_j-\bar{X})^2 \end{aligned}$$
The second equality is simply by expanding the squares. The third equality follows from the fact that $\displaystyle\sum_{i=1}^n(X_i-\bar{X})=n\bar{X}-n\bar{X}=0.$ The fourth equality is just a change in the index.