Let $$G=U(3),$$ be the unitary group. Here we consider $G$ in terms of the fundamental representation of U(3). Namely, all of $g \in G$ can be written as a rank-3 (3 by 3) matrices.
- Can we find some subgroup of Lie group, $$k \in K \subset G= U(3) $$ such that
$$ k^T \{P_1, P_2, P_3, -P_1, - P_2, - P_3 \} k =\{P_1, P_2, P_3, -P_1, - P_2, - P_3\} . $$ This means that set $\{P_1, P_2, P_3, -P_1, - P_2, - P_3\}$ is invariant under the transformation by $k$. Here $k^T$ is the transpose of $k$. What is the full subset (or subgroup) of $K$?
Here we define: $$ P_1 = \left( \begin{array}{ccc} 0 & 1 & 0 \\ -1 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 \\ \end{array} \right),\;\;\;\; P_2 = \left( \begin{array}{ccc} 0 & 0 & -1 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 \\ 1 & 0 & 0 \\ \end{array} \right),\;\;\;\; P_3 = \left( \begin{array}{ccc} 0 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ 0 & -1 & 0 \\ \end{array} \right).$$
This means that $k^T P_a k= \pm P_b$ which may transform $a$ to a different value $b$, where $a,b \in \{1,2,3 \}$. But overall the full set $ \{P_1, P_2, P_3, -P_1, - P_2, - P_3\}$ is invariant under the transformation by $k$.
There must be a trivial element $k=$ the rank-3 identity matrix. But what else can it allow? In particular, I can see a symmetric group S$_4$ and $\mathbb{Z}_3$ and a possible additional structure in $K$.
How could we determine the complete $K$?
In the OP's previous question I already proposed an answer as follows:
At first we fix a permutation matrix $Q=\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ 1 & 0 & 0 \end{pmatrix}$.
Note that the order of $Q$ is $3$, and $Q^2=Q^{-1}=Q^T$. Moreover we have $$ QP_1Q^T=P_2 \quad\text{and}\quad Q^2P_1(Q^2)^T=Q^TP_1Q=P_3 $$
In a similar way, it is routine to check that $$ \begin{align*} K_{00} \equiv \{k\in U(3) \mid k^TP_1 k=\pm P_1\} &= Q^0KQ^0 = K \\ K_{02} \equiv \{k\in U(3) \mid k^TP_1 k=\pm P_2\} &= Q^0KQ^2 = KQ^T \\ K_{01} \equiv \{k\in U(3) \mid k^TP_1 k=\pm P_3\} &= Q^0KQ^1 = KQ \\ K_{10} \equiv \{k\in U(3) \mid k^TP_2 k=\pm P_1\} &= Q^1KQ^0 = QK \\ K_{12} \equiv \{k\in U(3) \mid k^TP_2 k=\pm P_2\} &= Q^1KQ^2 = QKQ^T \\ K_{11} \equiv \{k\in U(3) \mid k^TP_2 k=\pm P_3\} &= Q^1KQ^1 = QKQ \\ K_{20} \equiv \{k\in U(3) \mid k^TP_3 k=\pm P_1\} &= Q^2KQ^0 = Q^TK \\ K_{22} \equiv \{k\in U(3) \mid k^TP_3 k=\pm P_2\} &= Q^2KQ^2 = Q^TKQ^T \\ K_{21} \equiv \{k\in U(3) \mid k^TP_3 k=\pm P_3\} &= Q^2KQ^1 = Q^TKQ \end{align*} $$
Now let us find $\{\pm P_1,\pm P_2,\pm P_3\}$ invariant matrices. There are three cases $K_{00},K_{02},K_{01}$ according to $k^TP_1k=\pm P_1$, $\pm P_2$ or $\pm P_3$.
Finally, we have the following $16\times 6$ invariant matrices:
For $\alpha,\beta,\gamma\in\mathbb{C}$ satisfying $\alpha\beta=\pm1$, $\alpha\gamma=\pm1$, and $\beta\gamma=\pm1$, $$ \begin{align*} K_{00}\cap K_{12}\cap K_{21} &\Rightarrow \begin{pmatrix} \alpha & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & \beta & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & \gamma \end{pmatrix} \quad K_{00}\cap K_{11}\cap K_{22} \Rightarrow \begin{pmatrix} 0 & \alpha & 0 \\ \beta & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & \gamma \end{pmatrix} \\ K_{02}\cap K_{10}\cap K_{21} &\Rightarrow\begin{pmatrix} \alpha & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & \beta \\ 0 & \gamma & 0 \end{pmatrix} \quad K_{02}\cap K_{11}\cap K_{20} \Rightarrow\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 0 & \alpha \\ \beta & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & \gamma & 0 \end{pmatrix} \\ K_{01}\cap K_{10}\cap K_{22} &\Rightarrow\begin{pmatrix} 0 & \alpha & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & \beta \\ \gamma & 0 & 0 \end{pmatrix} \quad K_{01}\cap K_{12}\cap K_{20} \Rightarrow\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 0 & \alpha \\ 0 & \beta & 0 \\ \gamma & 0 & 0 \end{pmatrix} \end{align*} $$
Note that there are 16 solutions satisfying $\alpha\beta=\pm1$, $\alpha\gamma=\pm1$, $\beta\gamma=\pm1$, which are $\alpha,\beta,\gamma=\pm1$ (8 solutions of order 1 or 2) and $\alpha,\beta,\gamma=\pm i$ (8 solutions or order 4).