The answer to the question in the title is probably "no", although the cardinal sum appears to have many of the properties of the lattice join. But it would be nice to have an explicit example of failure of the lattice meet and join properties.
Does $\sf ZF$ prove the existence of greatest lower bounds and/or least upper bounds for pairs of (not necessarily well-ordered) cardinals $\frak m,n$?
With $\sf AC$, the answer is clearly "yes", because then the cardinals are totally ordered so for any pair of cardinals one is the meet and the other is the join.
No. Of course not.
Hickman shows that for infinite Dedekind-finite cardinals (called "medial cardinals" in the paper) the existence of least upper bound is equivalent to the existence of greatest lower bound is equivalent to the cardinals being comparable.
It is easy to arrange a model with two incomparable infinite Dedekind-finite cardinals (in fact, it is hard to produce a nontrivial model where they are all comparable), and therefore it is easily not provable that the cardinals form a lattice.
Moreover, it is shown in the paper that if every two cardinals have a greatest lower bound, and for all $n<\omega$, $n|X|\leq|Y|$, then $\aleph_0|X|\leq|Y|$. Of course, this directly implies there are no infinite Dedekind-finite cardinals on its own.
Finally, it points to the following book with the proof that "Every pair of cardinals has a greatest lower bound implies that they have a least upper bound", as well as "Every infinite cardinal $x$ satisfies $2x=x$ implies that every pair of cardinals has a least upper bound".
while the question whether or not the reverse implications holds remains open. Hickman conjectures that they are false.
Footnotes
I do remember other papers about this, but I do not recall by whom or where they might be; however the following paper might be of interest to you:
You might find interesting stuff in the "big choice dictionary". Specifically, you're looking for Form 3.