Those 5 Statements are all equivalent to the Statement that $H$ is a normal subgroup of $G$:
$(1) \forall g \in G, h\in H$ we have $ghg^{-1} \in H$
$(2) \forall g \in G, gHg^{-1} \subseteq H$
$(3) \forall g \in G, gH = Hg$
$(4)$ Every right coset of $H$ is a left coset
$(5) H$ is the kernel of a homomorphism of $G$ to some other Group
In class we used the Definition 3 can someone explain me why 3 and 1 are equivalent?
Edit: It would be convenient to show the equivalence of all 5 statements
Assume (4).
We first show
Proof. Let $g \in G$. Since every right coset of $H$ is a left coset, there exists a $b \in G$ such that $Hg=bH$. Clearly, it is $g \in Hg=bH$ and so $g^{-1}b \in H$. From this it follows
$$Hg=(gg^{-1})(bH)=g((g^{-1}b)H)=gH$$
which shows (3).
So from now, we use the fact that $gH=Hg$ for every $g \in G$. Now we proof (4) $\Longrightarrow$ (5). First we show
Proof. We show: If $aH \cap bH \neq \emptyset$, then $aH=bH$. Especially, it then follows
$$b \in aH \Longrightarrow aH=bH.$$
So let $g \in aH \cap bH$, i. e. $g=ak$ with $k \in H$ and $g=bl$ with $l \in H$. Then we have for every $h \in H$ that $ah=blk^{-1}h \in bH$, so $aH \subseteq bH$. In the same way it follows $bH \subseteq aH$ and so the claim.
The proof that "$\sim$" is an equivalence relation you can read here.
Next we show
Proof. Since every $a \in G$ is an element of the left coset $aH$ (right coset $Ha$), $G$ is the union of its cosets. Since our preceding result, this union is disjoint.
We are now ready to state our final result, which proofs (5). In the following, $G/H=\{aH: a \in G\}$ denotes the set of left cosets of $H$ and ker denotes the kernel of a homomorphism.
Proof. At first we have to show that the multiplication if well-defined, i. e. $abH=a'b'H$ for all $a,a',b,b' \in G$ such that $aH=a'H$ and $bH=b'H$. Let $a'=ah$ and $b'=bk$ with $h,k \in H$. Since $H$ is a normal subgroup of $G$, there exists an $h' \in H$ such that $hb=bh'$. It follows
$$a'b'H=ahbkH=abh'hH=abH.$$
Now we show that "$\cdot$" is associative. This is very clear, since
$$(aH \cdot bH)\cdot cH=abH \cdot cH=abcH=aH \cdot (bcH)=aH \cdot (bH \cdot cH)$$
holds for every $aH, bH, cH \in G/H$. It is $eH=H \in G/H$ the neutral element because
$$eH \cdot aH=eaH=aH=aeH= aH \cdot eH$$
works vor every $aH \in G/H$. The inverse of an $aH \in G/H$ is $a^{-1}H \in G/H$ since we have
$$aH \cdot a^{-1}H=aa^{-1}H=eH=H=eH=a^{-1}aH=a^{-1}H \cdot aH$$
for every $aH \in G/H$. So we have shown that $G/H$ is a group. Next we show that $\varphi$ is a group homomorphism. For every $a,b \in G$ we have
$$\varphi(ab)=abH=aH \cdot bH=\varphi(a)\varphi(b).$$
Because of $\varphi(a)=aH$, $\varphi$ is clearly surjective. Finally we have to show that $\operatorname{ker}(\varphi)=H$. This follows from
$$ a \in \operatorname{ker}(\varphi) \Longleftrightarrow \varphi(a)=eH \Longleftrightarrow aH=eH \Longleftrightarrow a \in H.$$
Remark. $G/H$ is called the quotient group of $G$ by $H$.
Now it remains to show (5) $\Longrightarrow$ (1).
Proof. Let $gh \in gH$ with $h \in H$. Then it follows
$$\varphi(ghg^{-1})=\varphi(g)\varphi(h)\varphi(g^{-1})=\varphi(g)\varphi(g^{-1})=e_{G'},$$
so $ghg^{-1} \in H$.