Suppose $V$ is an $m$ dimensional linear subspace of $\mathbb{R}^{2m}$, $W$ is a complement of $V$, ($V$ and $W$ might not be orthogonal). Does there exist a orthogonal transform $Q \in \mathbb{R}^{2m \times 2m}$ s.t. $Q(V)=W, Q(W)=V$?
Intuitively I believe $Q$ does exist. For $m=1$, $V$ and $W$ are just lines through the origin, so we can take the angle bisector of $V,W$ and define $Q$ to be the mirror reflection across the angle bisector. But I don't know how to argue for $m>1$. It's difficult for me to define a high dimensional analogy of angle bisector of two linear subspaces with equal dimension.
For $m=2$ the idea of @Qiaochu Yuan works, but the isometric isomorphism $T$ has to be chosen appropriately. The transformation $Q(v+w)=Tv+T^{-1}w$ is an isometry iff $$\langle Tv,T^{-1}w\rangle =\langle v,w\rangle\quad (*)$$ Let $v_1,v_2$ and $u_1,u_2$ be orthonormal bases of $V$ and $W$ respectively. Define $T$ by $$Tv_1=(\cos\alpha) u_1+(\sin\alpha) u_2=:w_1,\quad Tv_2=-(\sin\alpha )u_1+(\cos\alpha) u_2=:w_2$$ Then $w_1,w_2$ form an orthonormal basis of $W.$ Therefore the transformation $T$ extends to an isometric isomorphism from $V$ onto $W.$ The condition $(*)$ will be satisfied if $$\langle w_i,v_j\rangle=\langle Tv_i,T^{-1}w_j\rangle =\langle v_i,w_j\rangle\quad (**)$$ Clearly the latter holds for $i=j.$ Therefore it suffices to consider $i\neq j.$ WLOG we may assume that $i=1$ and $j=2.$ Then $$\langle w_1,v_2\rangle=(\cos\alpha) \langle u_1,v_2\rangle+ (\sin\alpha) \langle u_2,v_2\rangle\\ \langle v_1,w_2\rangle=-(\sin\alpha) \langle v_1,u_1\rangle+ (\cos\alpha) \langle v_1,u_2\rangle$$ The condition $(**)$ is satisfied if $$\sin\alpha\,[\langle v_1,u_1\rangle+\langle u_2,v_2\rangle]= \cos\alpha\,[\langle v_1,u_2\rangle-\langle u_1,v_2\rangle]$$ The latter is satisfied for an angle $\alpha\in (-\pi/2,\pi/2].$