Let $$G=U(3),$$ be the unitary group. Here we consider $G$ in terms of the fundamental representation of U(3). Namely, all of $g \in G$ can be written as a rank-3 (3 by 3) matrices.
What is the convenient way to parametrize the rank-3 matrix in terms of a 9 degrees of freedom (for 9 generators)?
Can we find some subgroup of Lie group, $$k \in K \subset G= U(3) $$ such that
$$ k^T \{R_1, R_2\} k =\{R_1, R_2\} . $$ This means that set $\{R_1, R_2\}$ is invariant under the transformation by $k$. Namely, both cases are allowed: $$ k^T R_1 k =R_1,\;\;\; k^T R_2 k =R_2 . $$ $$ k^T R_1 k =R_2,\;\;\; k^T R_1 k =R_2 . $$
Here $k^T$ is the transpose of $k$. What is the full subset (or subgroup) of $K$?
Here we define: $$ R_1 = \left( \begin{array}{ccc} 0 & 1 & 0 \\ -1 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 \\ \end{array} \right),\;\;\;\; R_2 =-R_1= -\left( \begin{array}{ccc} 0 & 1 & 0 \\ -1 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 \\ \end{array} \right).$$
This means that $k^T R_a k=R_b$ which may transform $a$ to a different value $b$, where $a,b \in \{1,2 \}$. But overall the full set $ \{R_1, R_2\}$ is invariant under the transformation by $k$.
There must be a trivial element $k=$ the rank-3 identity matrix. But what else can it allow? In particular, I can see an SU(2) and an additional $\mathbb{Z}_2 \times \mathbb{Z}_2$ structure in $K$.
How could we determine the complete $K$?
Edit: More clarifications. Simplified the problem.
Solution. Let us find $k=(k_{ij})$ such that $k^TR_1k=R_1$ or $-R_1$. It implies the following three equations $$ k_{11}k_{23} = k_{13}k_{21}, \quad k_{12}k_{23} = k_{13}k_{22}, \quad k_{11}k_{22} - k_{12}k_{21} = \pm1 \tag{*} $$
Now the three equations in (*) are reduced to only one equation $$ k_{11}k_{22} - k_{12}k_{21} = \begin{cases} +1 & \text{if $k^TR_1k=R_1$} \\ -1 & \text{if $k^TR_1k=-R_1$} \end{cases} \tag{**} $$
Now we have $k=\begin{pmatrix} k_{11} & k_{12} & 0 \\ k_{21} & k_{22} & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & k_{33} \end{pmatrix}\in U(2)\times U(1)$ where $|k_{33}|=1$, and the equation (**) implies that the determinant of the sub-matrix $\begin{pmatrix} k_{11} & k_{12} \\ k_{21} & k_{22} \end{pmatrix}\in U(2)$ is $\pm1$.
On the contrary, it is easy to check this form of $k$ satisfies $k^TR_1k=R_1$ or $-R_1$.
Note. For the first question, I do not know any convenient way to parametrize $U(3)$.