I would like a help with understanding the formula for exterior derivative. Suppose that we have a differential 1-form on $\mathbb{R}^2$ given by $\omega(x)(v) = (a(x)dx + b(x)dy)(v)$. In other words $\omega$ is a mapping of the type $\mathbb{R}^2 \to \text{Hom}(\mathbb{R}^2, \mathbb{R})$, to every point we assign a linear mapping of the type $\mathbb{R}^2 \to \mathbb{R}$.
Now, I would like to derive the formula for $d\omega$. This means that I do not want to start with the axioms for the $d$ and I do not want to start with the formula and prove it. I want to naturally get to the fact that
$$d\omega(x)(u)(v) = \left (\frac{\partial b}{\partial x}(x) - \frac{\partial a}{\partial y}(x)\right )dx \wedge dy(v, u).$$
For example, for a 0-form $f\colon \mathbb{R}^2 \to \mathbb{R}$, we naturally want to approximate it every point by a linear mapping. So, we naturally get to the fact that the limit
$$\lim_{\|h\|\to 0}\frac{f(x+h)-f(x) - L(h)}{\|h\|}$$
must be $0$, for some linear mapping $L$ at a particular point $x$. The next step is to prove that the mapping $L$ has to be given by the $1\times 2$ matrix
$$\left (\frac{\partial f}{\partial x}, \frac{\partial f}{\partial y}\right ).$$
Is it possible to do a similar analogy of linear approximation for the 1-form $\omega$, or in general for a $k$-form on $\mathbb{R}^n$?
EDIT:
In particular I would like to know why
$$d\omega(x)(v)(u) = (d\omega(x)(v))(u) - (d\omega(x)(u))(v).$$
This is in some textbooks a definition and it can be simplified to the formula for $d\omega(x)(v)(u)$ stated above.
If you want a limit-based definition for higher forms, I think basing it on the generalized Stoke's theorem is the way to go:
$$ \int_{B(P, r)} \mathrm{d}\omega = \oint_{S(P, r)} \omega $$
where $B(P,r)$ is the disk around $P$ with radius $r$, and $S$ is its boundary: the circle around $P$ with radius $r$.
If $\mathrm{d}\omega = f \mathrm{d}x \mathrm{d}y$, then you can obtain the values of $P$ by integrating over small disks:
$$ f(P) = \lim_{r \to 0} \frac{1}{\pi r^2} \oint_{S(P, r)} \omega $$
You could replace disks and circles with other suitable shapes, such as squares.
If I understand correctly, I believe the way you want to conceive the derivative doesn't actually relate to the exterior derivative — what you are conceiving, I think, is the covariant derivative, or maybe of connections.