What I'm thinking is that since RHS contains a $10$, so at least one of the factors $(n+1)$ OR $(2n+1)$ must be divisible by 2. $(2n+1)$ is out of the question, so that means $(n+1)$ must be even, or $n$ must be odd.
If $(n+1)$ is divisible by $5$ also, then :
$n+1 = 5k_1 = 2k_2$ (for some ($k_1,k_2\in {\mathbb Z}$))
I do not know what to do with that $m^2$ .
Can anyone tell me how to proceed ?
EDIT : I found a factorized equivalent for the given statement : $(n+3m)(n-3m) + (n-m)(n+m) + (3n + 1) =0 $ . Is it something useful ?
Let $x=n+1$. The equation becomes $$x(2x-1)=10m^2 \\ 2x^2-x-10m^2=0 \\ x=\frac{1 \pm \sqrt{1+80m^2}}{4}$$
It follows that $1+80m^2$ must be a perfect square. Thus $$y^2=1+80m^2 \Rightarrow\\ y^2-80m^2=1$$
This is the Pell equation, and has solutions. Now, for each solution $(y,m)$, $y$ must be odd. Then, each of $1+y, 1-y$ is even, and their sum is $2$, meaning that exactly one of them is divisible by $4$ (look at them $\pmod{4}$).
That particular value leads to an integer value of $x$.