Given is a symmetric bilinear form $\phi:\mathbb R^4\times\mathbb R^4\to \mathbb R$ with $\phi(v,w)=v^{T}Aw$ and $A=\begin{bmatrix}1&1&1&1\\1&2&2&2\\1&2&-2&0\\1&2&0&-3\end{bmatrix}$
How can I compute the orthogonal complement $U$ of $W=(e_1,e_1+e_2+e_3)$ with respect to $\phi$ and second question; Is $U\cap W$ not the empty set ?
$U=\{v\in\mathbb R^4:\phi(e_1,v)=0,\phi(e_1+e_2+e_3,v)=0\}$ but $e_1+e_2+e_3$ is not in $\mathbb R^4$, it is a matrix ?
can I say $\phi(e_1+e_2+e_3,v)=\phi(e_1,v)+\phi(e_2,v)+\phi(e_3,v)$ and then ?
The set $W$ can clearly be expressed as the set of vectors $(a+b,b,b,0)^T$.
Expanding orthogonality relationship
$$\begin{bmatrix}x&y& z& t\end{bmatrix}\begin{bmatrix}1&1&1&1\\1&2&2&2\\1&2& -2& 0&\\1&2&0&-3\end{bmatrix}\begin{bmatrix}a+b\\b\\ b\\ 0\end{bmatrix}=0$$
one gets:
$$a(x+y+z+t)+b(3x+5y+z+3t)=0$$
that must be verified for all $a,b$, meaning equivalently that $x, y, z, t$ are solutions of the underdetermined system:
$$\begin{cases} x+y+z+t&=&0\\3x+5y+z+3t&=&0\end{cases}$$
That we can for example express in function of the two first variables, giving:
$$\begin{cases} z=y\\t=-x-2y\end{cases}$$
giving the 2 dimensional vector set:
$$\begin{bmatrix}x\\y\\ z\\ t\end{bmatrix}=\begin{bmatrix}x\\y\\y\\ -x-2y\end{bmatrix}=x\begin{bmatrix}1\\0\\0\\-2\end{bmatrix}+y\begin{bmatrix}0\\1\\1\\-2\end{bmatrix}$$
Regarding your second question, a vector of $U \cap W$ could be written, for certain $a,b,x,y$:
$$\begin{cases}x&=&a+b\\y&=&b\\y&=&b\\-x-2y&=&0\end{cases}$$
from which you will deduce easily that : $a=b=x=y$ (begin by adding the 4 equations): thus we get the null vector; said otherwise: $U \cap W=\{0\}$ (but not "void": beware).
A remark: Matrix $A$ is not positive definite: it has 2 positive eigenvalues and 2 negative eigenvalues.