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I'm trying to find at least one value of X such that x $\cong 3$ (mod 4) x $\cong$ 5 (mod 9)
I write it as:
x=9a +5
9a+5 $\cong$ 3 (mod 4)
Subtracting 5 from both sides yields:
9a $\cong$ 2 (mod 4)
I need to divide by 9 now. How on earth does this work?
And were my previous steps correct?
Yes your previous steps are OK.
You don't need to divide by $9$ since $9\equiv 1 \pmod 4$ so $9a\equiv 1a \pmod 4$ and thus you have $$a\equiv 2\pmod 4$$
So $a=4b+2$ and thus $x = 9(4b+2)+5 = 36b+23$