[Symmetry is easy enough for me (assuming I'm even correct)... $$(\forall(a,b)\in\mathcal{R})[(b,a)\in\mathcal{R}]$$
but I don't know how to say it similarly for transitivity and reflexivity.. There's no single $a\in\mathcal{R}$, nor is there $a,b,c\in\mathcal{R}$
Basically, I want to say that $\mathcal{R}=\{(1,1),(2,2),(3,3),(4,4),(1,2),(2,1),(2,3),(3,2),(3,4),(4,3)\}$ is reflexive and symmetric, but not transitive.
A relation $\mathcal R\subset A\times A$ is