I don't want to make this question too broad, or non-specific. I'll will discuss a simple situation so we can all share a common context, but my question is less about this particular group, and more about the strategy of showing that a particular mapping you're interested in is a valid homomorphism.
Let $G$ be a group, and let a non-identity $(\ne 1)$ element $a \in G$ be such that $a^2=1$. Then $K:=\left\{ 1, a \right\} \lt G$. I don't see right away that $K \lhd G$, so I want to find a homomorphism with kernel $K$. If we were to show that $K$ is normal, we would need $gK = Kg$ $\forall g \in G$, but since $g1 = 1g$, this would imply we need $ga = ag$ $\forall g \in G$. (I point this out because I'll refer back to it later. I'm willing to hear arguments about $K$ being normal, but that's not the point of this question.)
Defining a mapping $\phi:G \rightarrow G$ such that $\phi(a)=1$ (and necessarily $\phi(1) = 1$) would certainly put $a$ in the kernel if $\phi$ is indeed a homomorphism as we'd like. But how would I clearly show that this is a homomorphism, with exactly $K$ as its kernel? Surely I can't just note that $\phi(ag) = \phi(a)\phi(g) = \phi(g) = \phi(g)\phi(a)=\phi(ga)$. This would depend on $\phi$ being a homomorphism, and would be an example of assuming the conclusion. If $\phi$ were a homomorphism and well defined, this would show ... well, I guess it would not show that $ag = ga$, but it would show that $ag$ and $ga$ are both members of the same equivalence class in the quotient group formed by modding $K$ out of $G$.
I freely admit that my background is strong in analysis and weak in algebra. When I watch an algebraist at work, everything looks quick and simple and leaves the impression that I'm watching magic, as if we could prove anything we want to, which clearly isn't so.
So I suppose my clear, narrowly focussed question is this: What is the list of criteria that one must show to prove that a particular mapping is a well defined homomorphism, and as an example how would they be used to show that this is (or is not) a homomorphism?
I will share here what I've learned in my effort to understanding how to show one has a well defined group homomorphism. I invite the community to edit this answer if they can remove errors or increase clarity. Also, if anyone can address my question about the strategy of going about doing this (good approaches that make it easier), please chime in.
You cannot have a well defined homomorphism, without first having a well defined mapping. The "error" in my question above, was that I thought I had a well defined mapping and was struggling to show it was a well defined homomorphism.
Well defined mapping
There are 3 things one must have to show a mapping is well defined. Suppose you want to show $f:A \to B$ is a well defined mapping
For the purpose of memory, the simplest way I can compact those 3 rules into notation (encapsulating the convention that $f$ must be defined for every element in the domain) is $$f:A \to B \text{ is well defined} \iff \forall a \in A, f(a)\in \{b\} \subseteq B.$$
For every $a$, $f(a)$ is unambiguous (it's $b$), it takes a single value ($\{b\}$ is a singleton), and that value is in the range $B$.
Homomorphism
Showing that a well defined mapping is a homomorphism, is a single step application of the definition. Suppose you have two groups $G$ and $H$ and a well defined mapping $\phi : G \to H$, whose domain is all of $G$ (greek letters are preferred for homomorphisms).
Example
In the example in the question above, I thought I had a well defined mapping and was failing to see how to show this last step of showing it is a homomorphism (because I didn't know - or care - where the mapping took abstract elements I wasn't interested in). This itself showed that I'd failed the first step of showing the mapping was well defined. I knew where I wanted it to map a particular subgroup, but it was ambiguous where it took everything else. There were potentially MANY mappings that would map my subgroup to the identity in the range (and thus place the subgroup in the kernel if I could show it were a homomorphism), but for all we know, they could have mapped every other element to the same element. Even if I insisted criteria 2 and 3 of well defined held, and it respected the group operations (which would show it's a homomorphism), where the mapping took elements was still ambiguous. There may be several homomorphisms that accomplished such a thing.
There are many times in mathematics where we can define a portion of a mapping, and then claim there is a unique extension of that to a mapping over the entire domain, but identifying a subgroup that one would like to lie in the kernel of a homomorphism, and then seeking the homomorphism that does this is not valid.