I want to understand the details of gluing for hyperbolic manifolds. By gluing I mean something along the lines of the statement that "a Riemann surface is glued together on the overlap of local charts via holomorphic transition functions" etc.
I am having a hard time finding an equivalent description for hyperbolic manifolds. For example, I often come across the statement that "one can clearly glue to hyperbolic trousers together if their boundary components have the same length" but nowhere (that I have seen) is it described why two boundaries having the same length is enough.
That is, it seems entirely possible that the two hyperbolic metrics could fail to be compatible in a neighborhood of the two boundaries.
The (sufficiently small) tubular neighborhood of the boundary curve is the quotient of the region between a geodesic and an equidistant curve by a translation along the geodesic by $\ell(\partial).$ The hyperbolic plane is homogeneous enough that the geometry of this tubular neighborhood is entirely determined by the translation distance, so locally when you are gluing the two pairs of pants the neighborhood of the geodesic will be the quotient of the two sided neighborhood of the geodesic by the self-same length.
If you want to avoid group actions, a pair of pants is the double of a right-angled hexagon, so you are asking whether you can glue two such hexagons along a side of equal length. The answer is "yes", and the two right angles add up to $\pi.$ on each side (sorry, don't have a picture).
To summarize, this is just simple hyperbolic geometry. A similar argument works in higher dimensions - you can glue two hyperbolic manifolds with totally geodesic boundaries if the boundaries are isometric (this is the base of the famous Gromov-Piatetski-Shapiro construction of non-arithmetic manifolds).