Let $(E,\langle\cdot\;,\;\cdot\rangle)$ be a complex Hilbert space and $\mathcal{L}(E)$ be the algebra of all operators on $E$.
Assume that $T\in \mathcal{L}(E)$ and satisfy the following property (P):
$$\langle x,y\rangle=0\Longrightarrow \langle Tx,Ty\rangle=0,$$ for all $x,y\in E$.
I want to prove under the property $(P)$ that there exists $c\geq0$ such that $$\|Tx\|=c\|x\|,$$ for all $x\in E$.
Note that, if there exist $x, y\in E\setminus\{0\}$ such that $\|Tx\|=\alpha\|x\|$ and $\|Ty\|=\beta\|y\|$ for some $0\leq\alpha <\beta$, it can be seen that $\langle x,y\rangle\neq0$.
The claim as stated is false, because the operator $T=0$ provides a counterexample.
I assume for the rest that $T\neq 0$.
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This is already a very good start. However, this statement is also true if you allow $\alpha=0$ (although i do not know your proof of your statement, I would guess it could be modified to allow $\alpha=0$). Thus we can assume that $\ker T=\{0\}$.
Let $x\in E\setminus\{0\}$ be an arbitrary point and let $c>0$ be such that $\|Tx\|=c\|x\|$. For an element $z\in E\setminus\{0\}$ with $\langle x,z\rangle=0$, we can use your observation to obtain that $\|Tz\|=c\|z\|$. (Otherwise we would have have $\|Tz\|=\alpha\|z\|$ for some $\alpha\neq c$. Then your observation would imply $\langle x,z\rangle \neq0$.)
Let $y\in E$ be given. Then we can find a decomposition $y=\alpha x+z$ for $\alpha\in\mathbb C$ and $z\in \{x\}^\perp$. Note that it follows that $\alpha Tx\perp Tz$. We calculate $$ \|Ty\|^2=\|\alpha Tx+Tz\|^2 = |\alpha|^2\|Tx\|^2+\|Tz\|^2+ \langle \alpha Tx,Tz\rangle + \langle Tz,\alpha Tx\rangle \\= |\alpha|^2 c^2 \|x\|^2+c^2\|z\|^2 = c^2\|\alpha x+z\|^2 = c^2\|y\|^2. $$
Thus it holds for all $y\in E$.