Perhaps I’m having some difficulty understanding the complex plane. Say you have a complex number $z=a+bi$, where $a$ is the real part and $b$ is the imaginary part. Why do you plot the real part on one axis and the imaginary part on the other axis in a complex plane? I understand that real goes on real and imaginary goes on imaginary, but I don’t understand why $a+bi=(a,bi)$. How does the complex number suddenly become an ordered pair?
I believe I need that question answered before I can understand what $z$ is. I know that $|z|$ is the distance from the origin in the ReIm plane of $P(a,bi)$, and a geometric argument creates the equation $|z|=\sqrt{a^2+b^2}$. However, seeing as I don’t really know what $z$ is at all, I don’t quite understand the relationship between $z$ and $|z|$. $|z|$ is the absolute value of $z$… which means $|z|=|a+bi|=\sqrt{a^2+b^2}$? How does that work?
It is a choice we've made to depict complex numbers in the manner we have. But there are reasons for the choice. Complex numbers are all linear combinations of $1$ and $i$ using two real parameters (the real and imaginary parts), meaning this is number system is "two-dimensional" and hence may be depicted as a 2D plane by specifying an origin and two directions to represent the real and imaginary axis. Since there is no reason the imaginary axis should be bent at an awkward and asymmetric angle, it makes the most sense to depict the imaginary axis as perpendicular to the real axis. And hence the choice to make the real axis the $x$-axis and the imaginary axis the $y$-axis.
Some consider expressions like $a+bi$ a bit informal. What actually is $i$ after all? In math we have formal constructions of most things. We can construct integers from naturals using ordered pairs (in order to mimic formal differences $m-n$), we can construct rationals from natural numbers using ordered pairs (to signify formal quotients $m/n$), and we can construct real numbers from so-called "Cauchy" sequences of rational numbers (e.g. 3, 3.1, 3.14, ... can represent pi). Of course in all of these representations there is a bit of redundancy (mathematicians take care of that by considering "equivalence classes.") Point is, the same is sometimes done for $\mathbb{C}$: it is sometimes defined as a collection of ordered pairs with $(a,b)(c,d)$ defined to be $(ac-bd,ad+bc)$, and this is done algebraically purely for the purpose of having a formal construction!
It is another decision we've made to define the absolute value $|z|$ of a complex number to be the distance between it and the origin as depicted in the complex plane. (This restricts to the usual interpretation on the real number line, since $|x|$ for real numbers $x$ is just the distance between $x$ and $0$.) If we write $z=a+bi$, then by the Pythagorean theorem we have $|z|^2=a^2+b^2$.
There are 2D number systems where it doesn't make sense to use the same method of depiction. For instance $\mathbb{Q}(\sqrt{2})=\{a+b\sqrt{2}:a,b\in\mathbb{Q}\}$ or the "dual ring" $\mathbb{R}[\varepsilon]/(\varepsilon^2)$, i.e. the number system with elements that look like $a+b\varepsilon$ with $a,b$ real and the property that $\varepsilon^2=0$ by definition. What makes the accepted complex plane depiction of complex numbers a good choice is that it satisfies the property $|zw|=|z||w|$ and allows us to write complex numbers using polar form $re^{i\theta}$ which is very useful. (In addition to the complex numbers, there is a number system of so-called "split complex" numbers $a+bj$ with $j^2=+1$, not to be confused with the engineers' decision to use $j$ for a square root of negative one, which is sensible to depict as a plane as well because of the connections to conic sections and hyperbolic geometry.)