For example, consider the set $S = \{ 0, 1, 2, 3 \}$, and the following relation on $S$:
$$ R = \{(0,0), (1,1), (1,2), (1,3), (2,0), (2,2), (2,3), (3,0), (3,3) \}. $$
Obviously, I can go through each element and check for reflexivity, antisymmetry, and transitivity to confirm that this is, in fact, a partial ordering; but such methods of "brute force" become rather time consuming quite quickly as the size of $S$ and $R$ grow. In particular, I'm wondering if, perhaps, there is a way to use a logical matrix to determine these properties, because that would be quick and easy, I'd say. That is to say, I'm looking for something along the lines of "a logical matrix $M$ corresponding to a relation $R$ on a set $S$ is invertible iff $R$ is a partial ordering on $S$." Of course, I just made that up, but hopefully you get the idea.

As your question suggests, you can indeed use a matrix to visualize the relation. In your example, the matrix is $$ A = \left[\begin{array}{cccc} 1 & 0 & 0 & 0\\ 0 & 1 & 1 & 1\\ 1 & 0 & 1 & 1\\ 1 & 0 & 0 & 1 \end{array}\right]. $$ Note that there is a $1$ in the $(i,j)$-th cell if and only if $(i,j)\in R$.
Now, let $B=A-I$ where $I$ denotes the identity.
Now, consider the graph of $B$:
Clearly, this is not true for your example due to the path $1\rightarrow 2\rightarrow 0$ and the missing edge $1\rightarrow 0$.