Let $E$ be a complex Hilbert space, with inner product $\langle\cdot\;, \;\cdot\rangle$ and the norm $\|\cdot\|$ and let $\mathcal{L}(E)$ the algebra of all operators on $E$.
Let $A\in\mathcal{L}(E)$. I want to prove that $$\left\| \begin{pmatrix} 0 &A\\ A^* &0 \end{pmatrix}\right\|=\|A\|.$$ Here $\begin{pmatrix} 0 &A\\ A^* &0 \end{pmatrix}\in \mathcal{L}(E\oplus E)$.
Attempt \begin{align*} \left\| \begin{pmatrix} 0 &A\\ A^* &0 \end{pmatrix}\right\| &= \sup_{\substack{a\in E^2\\\|a\|^2=1}} \left\| \begin{pmatrix} 0 &A\\ A^* &0 \end{pmatrix}\cdot a\right\|\\ &= \sup_{\substack{x\in E,y\in E\\\|x\|^2+\|y\|^2=1}} \left\| \begin{pmatrix} 0 &A\\ A^* &0 \end{pmatrix}\cdot\begin{pmatrix} x\\y \end{pmatrix}\right\|\\ &= \sup_{\substack{x\in E,y\in E\\\|x\|^2+\|y\|^2=1}} \left\| \begin{pmatrix} Ay\\A^*x \end{pmatrix}\right\|\\ &= \sup_{\substack{x\in E,y\in E\\\|x\|^2+\|y\|^2=1}} \|Ay\|^2+\|A^*x\|^2=1\\ &=????\|A\| \end{align*}
Let $B$ be the big matrix, then $\|B \binom{x}{y} \|^2 = \|Ay\|^2+\|A^*x\|^2 = \|Ay\|^2+\|Ax\|^2 \le \|A\|^2 ( \|x\|^2 + \|y\|^2)$.
It is immediate from this that $\|B\| \le \|A\|$, and from $\|B \binom{0}{y} \|^2 = \|Ay\|^2$ that $\|B\| = \|A\|$.
Addendum:
Note that $\|A^*x\| = \sup_{\|u\| \le 1} | \langle u, A^* x \rangle = \sup_{\|u\| \le 1} | \langle Au, x \rangle \le \|A\| \|x\|$, so $\|A^*\| \le \|A\|$. Since $(A^*)^* = A$, we get $\|A\| \le \|A^*\|$.