I know that in infinite dimensional Hilbert spaces sometimes the best we can do is to find an orthonormal basis in the sense that any element in H can be approximated arbitrarily close in the NORM by a finite linear combination of this basis elements.
So then does that mean we can't expect that every x in H could be written as a finite linear combination of basis elements correct? So then we can't have things like $x= \sum_{i=1}^{\infty} a_k e_k $ for some $ a_k$ ARE constants in the underlying field, usually $\mathbb C$ (usually the projections of x on each $e_k$). So then how do we deal with linear transformations? For example how do we even define what a linear transformation does without explicitly saying what T(x) is for each x in H...ie how is saying what $T(e_k)$ is for each k enough to describe the whole linear transformation?
Thanks for answers to either question.. I see in a lot of proofs people writing x as this kind of infinite sum which confuses me since the infinite sum might not be in H..
Finally if we take some kind of infinite sum of elements in H, and the norm of that is finite, can we conclude the infinite sum is in H or that's still not enough?
If $\{e_k\}$ is an orthonormal basis of your Hilbert space $H$, then every $x\in H$ can be expressed in the form:
\begin{equation} x=\sum_{k} a_k e_k \end{equation}
with, as you say, the coefficients $a_k$ in the field (most usually $\mathbb C$). It is important to note that the choice of the coefficients is unique, namely $a_k=<x,e_k>$.
The converse is not true in general: for a sum like the one above to be in $H$ it is necessary (and sufficient) that $$ \sum_{k} |a_k|^2<\infty. $$
Of course, that would be always true if the dimension of the space (the cardinality of $\{e_k\}$) is finite. Hence, the infinite dimensional case is the only one of actual interest in this context.
Now, if you have a linear transformation $T$ defined in each of the $e_k$ then that determines $T$ on the whole of $H$, provided that the transformation is bounded, that is when $$ T(e_k)\leq M $$ for some fixed constant $M>0$.
In this case there is no problem: $$ T(x)=\sum_{k} a_k T(e_k) $$ and the sum in the right hand side is guaranteed to converge in $H$. It is readily verified that in the finite dimensional case every linear transformation is bounded, so again the case of interest is when the space is infinite dimensional.
However, if $T$ is not bounded, the most you can expect to have is an operator defined in a dense linear subspace of $H$ (called the domain of the operator, and denoted $D(T)$): this domain is the set of the $x$ for which the sum above converges in $H$.