Let $L= \{ \leq \}$ be the language of the partial orders and $M$ the $L$-structure with $M=\{ 1,2,3,4,6,12\}$ and $\leq_M=\{(x,y)$: $x$ is a divisor of $y$$\}$. Now, give an $L$-formula $\phi(x)$ that defines the element $2$ (or equivalently, for every $m \in M$: $M \models \phi [m/x] \Leftrightarrow m=2$).
Is this a good formula $\phi$? $\quad$ $ \neg(x \leq_M 1) \wedge (x \leq_M 2) \wedge \neg (x \leq_M 3) \wedge (x \leq_M 4) \wedge (x \leq_M 6) \wedge (x \leq_M 12) $
No, the proposed formula is not a good formula. The reason is that your language only includes $\leq$, and you are using $1,2,3,4,6$ and $12$. If you're going at it this way, you can just take $x=2$ and get it over with.
The correct way, instead is to pinpoint a property expressible by $\leq$, as interpreted in $M$. For example, you can note that $2$ is "almost" the minimum, and that except the minimum, and another element, every other number in $M$ is divisible by $2$. Try to formalize this, and prove that indeed only $2$ satisfies both these properties.