Suppose we have the Lorentz algebra $\mathfrak{so}(1,3)$ with the generators $M_{\mu\nu} = - M_{\nu\mu}$ and commutators between them are $$[M_{\mu\nu}, M_{\sigma\rho}] = g_{\nu\sigma}M_{\mu\rho} - g_{\mu\sigma}M_{\nu\rho} - g_{\nu\rho}M_{\mu\sigma} + g_{\mu\rho}M_{\nu\sigma}.$$ The metric is given in the $(-,+,+,+)$ signature.
I know that there are 6 independent generators, and that they are not all hermitian or anti-hermitian. But how do we prove the latter? Given that they are all hermitian, the commutator must be anti-hermitian, but I don't seem to get any further than this.
Any help is appreciated!
Personally, I never find a list of commutator relations very enlightening. Instead lets derive the algebra from its definition. $\mathfrak{so}(3,1)$ is the set of linear maps which are skew for an $(3,1)$-signature bilinear form $(\cdot, \cdot)$. That is $(Xv,w) + (v,Xw) = 0$. Choosing an orthonormal basis for this form we can write it as the matrix $$B = \begin{pmatrix}1&0&0&0\\0&1&0&0\\0&0&1&0\\0&0&0&-1\\\end{pmatrix}$$
Here $(v,w) = v^TBw$. Now, our skew condition implies $X^TB+BX = 0$. But multiplying by $B$ on the left simply changes the sign of the bottom row and similarly multiplying by it on the right flips the sign of the right hand column. So writing $X$ as a block matrix in our basis:
$$ X = \begin{pmatrix}A&B\\C&D\end{pmatrix},$$ where $A$ is $3\times 3$ and $D$ is $1\times 1$, we get
$$ X^TB+BX = \begin{pmatrix}A^T&-C^T\\B^T&-D^T\end{pmatrix} +\begin{pmatrix}A&B\\-C&-D\end{pmatrix} = 0 $$
And thus $A^T = -A$, $B^T = -C$ and $D^T = -D$ (which forces $D=0$). So we have a block diagonal skew-symmetric part and a block off-diagonal symmetric part both of dimension $3$, so we can clearly choose a basis of $3$ symmetric ones and $3$ anti-symmetric ones.
Of course you can choose a basis of elements that don't fall in either category if you wanted.