While I fully understand what it means to be an equivalence relation, I have a difficulty establishing proof that $R$ is an equivalence relation without just listing all pairs that $R$ creates and testing them.
However this method is greatly time consuming and is not possible during exams as we usually have only 2 minutes (exam is 120 min long and is out of 120 marks, the question below is worth 2 marks only) to show that R is an equivalence relation.
For the following relation, can someone show me a fast method for proving that $R$ is an equivalence relation?
Let $\mathcal{P}(S)$ be the power set of $S =\{0,1,2,...,9\}$ and define $$R = \{ (A,B) \in \mathcal{P}(S) \times \mathcal{P}(S) : A=S\backslash B \text{ or } A=B\}.$$
I know we can use $A=B$ from the relation definition to assert that it is reflexive, but what about symmetry and transitivity?
If I prove that $xRy$ is the same as $yRx$ for one example, that doesn't prove that all $A$s and $B$s have symmetric relations as there might be a contradiction somewhere, or is just proving one example symmetric enough to assert that all $A$s and $B$s have a symmetric relation?
You want to try to prove as much as you can for arbitrary elements $(A,B)$, working from the definitions.
For example, let's say you want to prove symmetry. Symmetry means the following: if you assume $(A,B) \in R$, you want to prove $(B,A) \in R$. So assume $(A,B) \in R$. That means, according to the definition of $R$, either $A=B$ or $A=S\setminus B$. So we break down into two cases:
In either case $(B,A) \in R$, so we have proven symmetry.
Transitivity can be done similarly (though you might need to break up into more cases and subcases); I'll leave it for you to tackle.