I could use some clarification, this isn't that difficult of a concept but I feel it's easily screwed up when doing so
If you have a structure with a binary operation. First thing to do is check whether associativity holds this one is not an issue.
now, for identity.
You assume there exists an identity then show it exists and that it is the identity.
Then for inverse, you assume an inverse exists because the identity exists so then you show it exists.
Is this the correct way to think about it and to do it. I run into issues with showing why an identity must exist or why an inverse exists in problems that have structures with binary operations that are not very clear.
I'm finding my issue then becomes (sometimes) worse when trying to prove normal subgroups or even subgroups.
Here is an "illustrative example":
Show that the set $\Bbb Q-\{-1\}$ (all the rationals except $-1$) forms a group under the operation $\ast$, where $a\ast b = a + b + ab$.
First, we need to know $\ast$ is actually a binary operation on said set. It is clear that the domain of $(\Bbb Q-\{-1\})\times (\Bbb Q-\{-1\})$ is perfectly acceptable, but it is not immediately evident that the range of $\ast$ is wholly contained in $\Bbb Q-\{-1\}$. This is an important condition, called closure, which often needs to be verified.
So let's see if this can happen: suppose $a\ast b = -1$. Since we are dealing with rational numbers, we can freely use facts about rational numbers we already know. Thus:
$a + b + ab = -1 \implies a(b + 1) + b + 1 = 0 \implies (a + 1)(b + 1) = 0$
Since this can only happen if either $a$ or $b$ (or both) is $-1$, and neither is, we are assured of closure. Verifying associativity is, in this case, straightforward (but a little tedious):
$(a\ast b)\ast c = (a + b + ab)\ast c = a + b + ab + c + (a + b + ab)c$
$= a + b + c + ab + ac + bc + abc$
$= a + (b + c + bc) + ab + ac + abc = a + (b + c + bc) + a(b + c + bc)$
$= a \ast (b + c + bc) = a \ast(b \ast c)$
Now rather than assuming an identity exists (because we have no idea of knowing IF it does), we instead look for which rational numbers might be possible candidates. Suppose that $e$ is one such candidate, then for it actually to be an identity we need for any given $a$:
$a\ast e = a$, that is:
$a + e + ae = a \implies e + ae = 0 \implies e(1 + a) = 0$.
Since $1 + a \neq 0$ (because $a \neq -1$), the only viable candidate is $e = 0$. Now it is straightforward to show $0$ is indeed a two-sided identity for $\ast$ (alternatively, we could show that $\ast$ is commutative, and show $0$ is a one-sided identity).
Similarly, we have no idea if inverses exist under $\ast$. If $a$ has an inverse, say $b$ (bearing in mind such an $a$ may not exist, or that only SOME $a$'s may have such an inverse $b$), we have that:
$a \ast b = 0 \implies a + b + ab = 0 \implies b + ab = -a \implies b = \dfrac{-a}{1 + a}$.
Note that the only rational number $a$ for which $b$ is undefined is $a = -1$, which is not an element of our set. One more caveat, we have to show $b$ is always in our set, as well, which in this example boils down to showing $b$ cannot be $-1$ (it is clearly rational). But that leads to:
$-1 = \dfrac{-a}{1 + a} \implies \dfrac{a}{1 + a} = 1 \implies a = 1 + a \implies 0 = 1$, a contradiction. So it is clear this does not happen, and now we can readily verify that given $a \in \Bbb Q - \{-1\}$, that we have the unique inverse:
$a^{-1} = \dfrac{-a}{1+a}$, and we indeed have a group.
This procedure "doesn't always work", for example, when trying to determine if all 2x2 real matrices have inverses, one has to solve a system of two simultaneous linear equations:
$\begin{bmatrix}a&b\\c&d\end{bmatrix}$ has an inverse if the system:
$ax + by = 0$
$cx + dy = 0$
has only the unique solution $x = 0, y = 0$. When one tries to use elimination and substitution on this system of equations, to ensure uniqueness one must make the assumption the quantity $ad - bc \neq 0$. However, this cannot be guaranteed to be the case, and it turns out it is precisely these 2x2 matrices that fail to have inverses.