Let $A:\mathbf{R}^{3}\rightarrow \mathbf{R}^{3}$ be given by $A(x,y,z)=(3x-z,2y,-x+3z)$. Show that $A$ is self-adjoint.
My work, (I consider the inner product like dot product in $\mathbf{R}^{3}$):
Let $w,z\in \mathbf{R}^{3}$ where $w=(x_{1},y_{1},z_{1})$ and $z=(x_{2},y_{2},z_{2})$ and $x_{i},y_{i},z_{i} \in \mathbf{R}$ for $i=1,2$, so: \begin{eqnarray*} \langle Aw,z \rangle &=& \langle (3x_{1}-z_{1},2y_{1},-x_{1}+3z_{1}),(x_{2},y_{2},z_{2}) \rangle \\ &=&3x_{1}x_{2}-z_{1}x_{2}+2y_{1}y_{2}-x_{1}z_{2}+3z_{1}z_{2} \end{eqnarray*} By other way: \begin{eqnarray*} \langle w,Az \rangle &=& \langle (x_{1},y_{1},z_{1}),(3x_{2}-z_{2},2y_{2},-x_{2}+3z_{2}) \rangle \\ &=&3x_{1}x_{2}-z_{2}x_{1}+2y_{1}y_{2}-x_{2}z_{1}+3z_{1}z_{2} \end{eqnarray*} But if $A$ is self-adjoint then $\langle Aw,z\rangle=\langle w,Az \rangle$ and I can't see this.
Your calculations are correct, you just need to reorder the terms. Does this help?
\begin{eqnarray*} \langle Aw,z \rangle &=& \langle (3x_{1}-z_{1},2y_{1},-x_{1}+3z_{1}),(x_{2},y_{2},z_{2}) \rangle \\ &=&3x_{1}x_{2}-\color{blue}{z_{1}x_{2}}+2y_{1}y_{2}-\color{red}{x_{1}z_{2}}+3z_{1}z_{2} \end{eqnarray*} \begin{eqnarray*} \langle w,Az \rangle &=& \langle (x_{1},y_{1},z_{1}),(3x_{2}-z_{2},2y_{2},-x_{2}+3z_{2}) \rangle \\ &=&3x_{1}x_{2}-\color{red}{z_{2}x_{1}}+2y_{1}y_{2}-\color{blue}{x_{2}z_{1}}+3z_{1}z_{2} \end{eqnarray*}