The cross product between vectors in $\mathbb{R}^3$ obeys two pleasant identities (sometimes named after Lagrange), namely
- $a\times(b\times c)=b(a\cdot c)-c(a\cdot b)$
- $(a\times b)\cdot(c\times d)=(a\cdot c)(b\cdot d)-(a\cdot d)(b\cdot c)$.
The first one can be proved by invoking multilinearity and thus reducing oneself to a tedious check when $\{a,b,c\}\subseteq\{e_1,e_2,e_3\}$. The second one can be deduced from the first using properties of the triple product.
I am looking for some slick/conceptual proof of the two identities (or one of them); maybe exterior algebra has something to tell us?
You can definitely approach this from the perspective of exterior algebra. Indeed, the part of your question relating to your first identity has been asked before, so for the coordinate-free, exterior algebra proof of that, please take a look at my answer to the earlier question. So, let me know turn to your second identity. Before continuing, let me recycle some background and notation from my old answer.
Now, let $a$, $b$, $c$, $d \in \mathbb{R}^3$. Then $$ \langle a \times b, c \times d \rangle \omega = \langle \ast (a \wedge b), \ast (c \wedge d) \rangle \omega \\ = \ast (a \wedge b) \wedge \ast \ast (c \wedge d) \\ = \ast (a \wedge b) \wedge (c \wedge d)\\ = (-1)^{1 \cdot 2} (c \wedge d) \wedge \ast (a \wedge b)\\ = \langle c \wedge d, a \wedge b \rangle\omega \\ = \langle a \wedge b, c \wedge d \rangle\omega\\ = \begin{vmatrix} \langle a,c \rangle & \langle a,d \rangle \\ \langle b,c \rangle & \langle b,d \rangle \end{vmatrix}\omega\\ = (\langle a,c \rangle \langle b,d \rangle - \langle a,d \rangle \langle b,c \rangle)\omega, $$ as was required. Observe, in particular, that the right-hand side of your second identity looks like a $2 \times 2$ determinant because once you've unpacked all relevant definitions, it really is a $2 \times 2$ determinant, namely the inner product $$ \langle a \wedge b, c \wedge d \rangle := \begin{vmatrix} \langle a,c \rangle & \langle a,d \rangle \\ \langle b,c \rangle & \langle b,d \rangle \end{vmatrix} $$ of the bivectors $a \wedge b$, $c \wedge d \in \bigwedge^2 \mathbb{R}^3$.