Let $E/\mathbb{C}$ be a smooth elliptic curve, and let $E[3]$ be the 3-torsion points. We have a non-canonical isomorphism
$$ E[3] \cong \mathbb{Z}/3 \times \mathbb{Z}/3$$
and if I'm not mistaken, the multiplication by 3 map gives an isomorphism
$$E/E[3] \longrightarrow E$$
of $E$ with its quotient by the 3-torsion points.
In general, most of my intuition comes out of complex algebraic geometry, and I tend to struggle even with basic things over finite fields. So my first question is the following:
If we now have $E/\mathbb{Q}$ a smooth elliptic curve, and we reduce modulo $\mathbb{F}_{p^{n}}$ such that $E/\mathbb{F}_{p^{n}}$ is smooth, should we really think of the 3-torsion points as the group scheme
$$E[3] \cong \mu_{3} \times \mu_{3}?$$
In other words, not all elliptic curves have 9 distinct 3-torsion points, correct? I presume they will over the algebraic closure, but otherwise there might be "fattening."
Basically, I was hoping to use this simple setting as a testing ground for how to count points on quotient varieties over $\mathbb{F}_{p^{n}}$ (which seems to me to be quite a delicate issue).
So over $\mathbb{F}_{p^{n}}$, to what extent is $E/E[3]$ well-defined, where I've assumed $E[3] \cong \mu_{3} \times \mu_{3}$? Do we still have an isomorphism with $E$ itself? Perhaps this should be a question of its own, but can one think of counting points on $E/E[3]$ by studying $\mu_{3} \times \mu_{3}$-torsors over $\text{Spec}(\mathbb{F}_{p^{n}})$?
When it comes to schemes, I think it's the best to specify it's a scheme over what. For example, $E[3]$ over $\mathbb{F}_3$ is never $\mu_3 \times \mu_3$, and there are a few ways to see this:
(You also said "not all elliptic curves have $9$ distinct $3$-torsion points", which suggests that you think $\mu_3$ always have $3$ points, but this is not right!)Even if $E$ is supersingular, $E[3]$ as a group scheme is still never $\mu_3 \times \mu_3$, because of the first point! (In fact it's not easy to see what this really is, but this is a story for another day.)
Towards the second part, you mentioned quotient varieties. I am no algebraic geometer, so to me the word "quotient" already rings a huge alarm in me, and I shall humbly leave this part for others to answer. (I might not be right on this, but I would like to think that since $K=E[3]$ is finite, $E/K$ is still nicely and well defined and the isomorphism is still fine.)
(Editted according to Alex's and OP's comment.)