According to my book:
R = {(1,2), (2,3), (1,3), (2,1)} is not transitive because (1,1) and (2,2) are missing. I don't see why (1,1) & (2,2) would be relevant here since aRb and bRc => aRc has been fulfilled.
According to my book #2:
R = {(1,1), (2,2), (3,3)}
Is both symmetric and transitive. How is it transitive?
The first relation is not transitive as you have 1R2 and 2R1 (and 2R1 and 1R2). If it were transitive you would have 1R1 (and 2R2). But you do not.
For the second relation. It is transitive, since the only relations are 1R1 and 2R2 and 3R3. So, the only couples xRy and yRZ are
The key point is that a,b,c do not need to be (all) distinct.