let $S=\Bbb R\times \Bbb R$ define a relation $R$ on $S$ by $(a,b)R(c,d)$ iff $a-b=c-d$, verify $R$ is an equivalence relation
I don't think that it is reflexive, because $a-b$ will not always $= b-a$.
For example if $a=1$ and $b= 3$, $1-3=-2$, but $3-1=2$.
Hint: You've got the order wrong. Indeed, $R$ is reflexive. Observe that for any $(a,b)\in S$, we have $a-b=a-b$. Hence, by the definition of the relation, we have $(a,b)R(a,b)$, as desired.
To prove that $R$ is symmetric, choose any $(a,b),(c,d) \in S$, and show that if $(a,b)R(c,d)$, then $(c,d)R(a,b)$.
To prove that $R$ is transitive, choose any $(a,b),(c,d),(e,f) \in S$, and show that if $(a,b)R(c,d)$ and $(c,d)R(e,f)$, then $(a,b)R(e,f)$.