While studying parabola, we had derived the equation of tangent for $y^2=4ax$, given by $y=mx+a/m$. Now if I want to use this for $x^2=4by$, I change a $\to$ b and x $\to$ y. Now suppose for the ellipse $\frac {x^2}{a^2} + \frac{y^2}{b^2} =1 (a>b)$, I know the tangent is given by $y=mx \pm \sqrt{a^2m^2+b^2}$. What should I change to get my equation for the ellipse where $(a<b)$
It would be so great if I get to know all places where changes are to be applied.
Thankyou
Your use of different parameters for the two families of parabolas is, I think, muddying the waters. Transforming the equations of tangents to one family into equations of tangents to the other really only requires a single substitution. The two families of parabolas are each other’s reflections in the line $x=y$, and the equations of one family are obtained from the other by applying this reflection—by swapping $x$ and $y$ in the equations. This same reflection applies to the equations of the tangents, so from $y=mx+a/m$ for the tangents to $y^2=4ax$ you get $x=my+a/m$ for the tangents to $x^2=4ay$. Note, however, that the geometric meaning of the parameter $m$ has changed in the process: instead of being the slope of the tangent line, it is the reciprocal of the slope of $x=my+a/m$.
For an ellipse given by ${x^2\over a^2}+{y^2\over b^2}=1$, the formula you have holds regardless of the relative magnitudes of $a$ and $b$. Recall how the equations $y=mx\pm\sqrt{m^2a^2=b^2}$ were derived: starting with the generic equation $y=mx+d$ of a (non-vertical) line, one then finds the values of $d$ for which the line has exactly one intersection with the ellipse. The solution to that problem certainly depends on the semi-axis lengths, but whether the major axis is parallel to the $x$- or $y$-axis doesn’t enter into it.
If you’re not convinced, you could proceed as with the parabolas: the ellipse ${x^2\over a^2}+{y^2\over b^2}=1$ is the reflection of ${x^2\over b^2}+{y^2\over a^2}=1$ in the line $x=y$, so if $a\lt b$ reflect the ellipse. By your formula, tangents to this reflected ellipse will have the form $y=mx\pm\sqrt{b^2m^2+a^2}$, which becomes $x=my\pm\sqrt{b^2m^2+a^2}$ when reflected back. Solving for $y$ results in $$y=\frac xm\pm\sqrt{{a^2\over m^2}+b^2}$$ but remember that $m$ is now the reciprocal slope, so we replace it with $m'=1/m$ to get $y=m'x\pm\sqrt{a^2{m'}^2+b^2}$.
I’m not sure that it’s really worth memorizing all of these special-case formulas, even for a timed exam. If you remember how they’re derived, it doesn’t take much time to rederive them or to apply the derivations to the specific cases in the exam. On the other hand, I think that it’s well worth learning pole-polar relationships of tangents to conics. Those will let you quickly find the tangent at any point on any conic, not just the ones that are nicely aligned with the coordinate axes, and can also be used to find the tangents to a conic through an arbitrary point. As a special case of the latter, by choosing the appropriate point at infinity, one can find tangents with a given slope as your formulas do. The key ideas for this are that the tangent at a point on a conic is that point’s polar, and that the intersections of an exterior point’s polar with the conic are the points of tangency of the tangents through that exterior point.