This equivalent is used often in group theory. For example, using this equivalnce you prove Lagranges theroem and also this equivalence gives you the cosets and other things. This equivalence also gives you the modulo equivalnce in $\langle \Bbb{Z}, + \rangle$. But most equivalences disjoin the set accordingnly and you can do probably the same things.
What I really mean is is there any reason for it that is being used so much especially in group theory does it have something or it is just what they came up that fits to group theory? Because most constructions in group theory are made up from this equivalence? Is it the only one it does the job done? The equiv is $a$ is related to $b$ if $a*b^{-1}$ belongs to $H$ subgrougroup of a given $\langle G,*\rangle$
I presume you mean the equivalence relation induced by a subgroup $H\le G$ defined by $a\sim b$ if and only if $ab^{-1}\in H$. I have two answers for this.
(1) Groups are meant to study symmetry. I think groups are to group actions as potential energy is to kinetic energy: groups act on things. So group actions are of fundamental importance. Often we examine certain types of actions on certain types of objects: linear transformations on a vector space, or automorphisms of a graph, or rotations preserving a polyhedron, or diffeomorphisms of a manifold, and so on. But the most basic is just a group action on a set, with no additional structure involved. This type of thing is used in leveraging symmetry to explore combinatorial counting problems, for example necklace counting. This is relevant to Polya enumeration, cycle indices, generating functions, and most generally combinatorial species.
Anyway, the most basic building block in the theory of group actions is that of orbits. We can say that every $G$-set is a disjoint union of orbits. The categorical version of the orbit-stabilizer theorem states that every orbit is isomorphic (as a $G$-set, via a $G$-equivariant bijection) to the coset space $G/H$, where $H$ is the stabilizer of any element in the orbit. So coset spaces are natural, and they form a partition of $G$. Partitions of sets correspond to equivalence relations, and the equivalence relation in this case is $aH=bH$, or equivalently $b^{-1}a\in H$. With right actions it's $ab^{-1}\in H$.
(2) Congruence relations are fundamental in abstract algebra for collapsing algebraic structures into quotients (quotient groups, quotient rings, quotient modules, etc.), and by the first isomorphism theorem in the appropriate category this is equivalent to characterizing all of the homomorphic images of an algebraic structure. A congruence relation $\sim$ on a group $G$ is an equivalence relation such that $a\sim b$ and $c\sim d$ imply $ac\sim bd$ for all $a,b,c,d\in G$. One may prove that such a relation is precisely that of $a\sim b$ iff $aN=bN$ for some normal subgroup $N\triangleleft G$.