I understand that equivalence relations can group elements of a set to a class that share similar properties. I think it's really cool that we can partition a set using equivalence relations. I'm also someone who doesn't do math for its applications but for its beauty. However...
Why do we care about equivalence relations?
For a specific equivalence relation reflexivity, symmetry, transitivity are always immediate (at least from what I have seen). You can e.g. define modulo with equivalence relations. Suppose you have never even heard of the equivalence relations, though. You could still define modulo without a problem.
Example: Just today, we've defined connected components of a graph using equivalence relations in class. Why would you want to do that? Why not use standard graph theory language? I don't see the reason for using equivalence relations to introduce connected components - what exactly is it that we gain by introducing equivalence classes?
So in summary, I kind of lack a motivation for equivalence relations and would appreciate examples that could enlighten me on that.


One instance in math where the notion of an equivalence relation is particularly useful, and makes the axioms of an equivalence relation seem natural, is considering a set modulo some equivalence relation.
It is also useful when you have some sets with some type of structure (groups, rings, topological spaces) and you want some way to think of them as being the same. We usually do this by defining an appropriate 'structure preserving function' between them and intuitively these functions should satisfy the axioms of an equivalence relation. Otherwise, what use would it be to have 3, say topological spaces, A,B,C such that we regard A and B as the same B and C as the same but not A and C as the same.
In short an equivalence relation is a nice way to make precise the manner in which we can regard two things as the same (even if they are not "equal"). For the laymen example suppose I am talking about all the shoes I own, but I don't want to talk about distinct shoes, I just want to talk about all the pairs of shoes I own. My blue nike that goes on my left foot is not actually the same shoe as my blue nike that goes on my right foot, but if I consider my shoes modulo the equivalence relation that they belong to the same pair - both of my blue nikes just became the same shoe. In essence I can talk about, or prove things about, both shoes by just considering one of them. Because modulo the equivalence relation, they are "equal".
Edit: added after original post. Also, something I noticed as I was advancing into higher more abstract mathematics (which I am still doing!) was a common theme of certain math concepts. We love to take some normal concept such as 'equality' or 'distance' and say 'what are the properties that are inherent to distance' or 'what are the properties that are inherent to the notion of equality'. If you sit down and brainstorm for each, you will likely come up with the axioms for a metric space in the distance case, and the axioms of an equivalence relation in the equality case. Then, mathematicians love to say 'what happens in the more general setting where more general objects obey these properties?'. In this sense, the "motivation" would be more along the lines of curiosity. Then, if the theory is turning out to be fruitful and producing interesting results, that further motivates the study of this new 'generalized' notion. I actually haven't studied graph theory, so I can speak to much about your example regarding connected components, but my hunch is that using the equivalence relation is 'just general enough' in the sense that, by avoiding using an equivalence relation you could, at some point, be limiting your self by not being general enough or get wacky results because things are too general. Me personally, everything I study is algebraic - and equivalence relations are imperative. They help to study smaller algebraic structures without forgetting the old structure it came from - and again help make precise what it means for two algebraic structures to be equal.