In classifications of the subgroups of a given group, results are often stated up to conjugacy. I would like to know why this is.
More generally, I don't understand why "conjugacy" is an equivalence relation we care about, beyond the fact that it is stronger than "abstractly isomorphic."
My vague understanding is that while "abstractly isomorphic" is the correct "intrinsic" notion of isomorphism, so "conjugate" is the correct "extrinsic" notion. But why have we designated this notion of equivalence, and not some other one?
To receive a satisfactory answer, let me be slightly more precise:
Question: Given two subgroups $H_1, H_2$ of a given group $G$, what properties are preserved under conjugacy that may break under general abstract isomorphism?
For example, is it true that $G/H_1 \cong G/H_2$ iff $H_1$ is conjugate to $H_2$? Or, is it true that two subgroups $H_1, H_2 \leq \text{GL}(V)$ are conjugate iff their representations are isomorphic? I'm sure these are easy questions to answer -- admittedly, I haven't thought fully about either -- but I raise them by way of example. What are other such equivalent characterizations?
$H_1$ and $H_2$ are conjugate as subgroups iff $G/H_1$ and $G/H_2$ are isomorphic as $G$-sets.
Edit: Two related settings where this condition shows up are Galois theory and covering space theory. One way to state the classification of (not necessarily connected) covering spaces of a (nice, path-connected) space $X$ is that the category of such covers is equivalent to the category of $\pi_1(X)$-sets. Among these, the transitive $\pi_1(X)$-sets correspond to the connected covers, so we get that connected covers correspond to conjugacy classes of subgroups of $\pi_1(X)$. To get subgroups on the nose you need to pick basepoints in the covers lifting a basepoint in $X$.
Edit #2: Here is another setting where this condition appears, to whet your appetite. If $H_1$ and $H_2$ are isomorphic, then their categories $\text{Rep}(H_1)$ and $\text{Rep}(H_2)$ of linear representations are equivalent. But if $H_1$ and $H_2$ are conjugate, it's furthermore true that we can choose an equivalence between these categories to have the property that the corresponding induction functors $\text{Ind}_{H_i}^G : \text{Rep}(H_i) \to \text{Rep}(G)$ are naturally isomorphic.