What tells us that the structure of the cardinals is "discrete"? I'm not using the words "discrete" and "dense" with their formal meanings.
Maybe I have this confusion because I'm using concepts that I've not formalized (in my mind) but in other words why can we talk about successor of a infinite cardinal?
Who tells us that there isn't a cardinal $\kappa$ such that $\aleph_\alpha\lt\kappa\lt\aleph_\alpha^+$?
For exaple when we talk about $\mathbb Q$ we can't find the successor of a number $q^+\in\mathbb Q$ such that $\nexists r (q\lt r \lt q^+)$.
If I must define what I mean with successor I wold say this:
Let be $(A,\lt) $ a total strict order and $a\in A$ I define $succ_\lt(a)=a^+$ only if $\nexists b\in A(a\lt b\lt succ_\lt(a))$
How matematicians know that if cardinalities are linearly ordered exists a successor (like for finite sets) with the properties that I've defined? What if infinite cardinals have the structure of the rational numbers?... then we can find betwen two infinite sets always an infinite number of infinite sets with intermediate sizes? Why is not possible?
The cardinals are well-ordered. The definition you look for, by the way, is called scattered, rather than "discrete".
The reason they are well-ordered is that we use the ordinals to define the cardinals. This is a good thing, because we make a lot of use of this fact, because well-orders are easy to induct over, whereas dense orders are harder to deal with in this aspect.
We define the infinite cardinals as particular ordinals as follows:
We have that the function $\alpha\mapsto\aleph_\alpha$ is an order-preserving bijection, so the cardinals have the same properties as the ordinals when it comes to their order.
Using the axiom of choice every set is equipotent with an ordinal, which means that every set can be assigned an $\aleph$ number. Do note that cardinality ignores any other structure you may have associated with a particular set, much like $\Bbb Q$ is countable, but there is no order-preserving bijection between $\Bbb Q$ and $\Bbb N$.
On the other hand, if we ditch the axiom of choice and replace it with its negation then not all the cardinals are ordinals and there is a lot of mess going on there. It is still not necessary that there are things which look like $\Bbb Q$, but it is consistent that there are.
With regards to the successor we have that three main definitions which are equivalent under the axiom of choice are no longer equivalent, and even $\aleph_0$ might have several distinct successors. See my answer here for more details on that last part.
But in those models of $\sf ZF$ where the axiom of choice fails, we hardly know anything about structure of the cardinals. In fact, we know very very very little on the structure of cardinals in arbitrary models of $\sf ZF$. We do know that it can get pretty darn crazy, but that's about that.