I've been casually reading up on group theory recently, and I want to get a really solid and motivated understanding of where all the definitions we use come from.
Notions like the center of a group seem utterly natural to give a name to; all those elements that commute with the whole group $G$, which is easily proven a subgroup.
Normal subgroups however are slightly more mysterious. Closure under conjugation by arbitrary $g \in G$ seems like a natural idea once we've decided we care about conjugation, but it's not obvious to me why this should be privileged above all other automorphisms.
Is conjugation provably unique in some significant way; why is there not some other use of group operations defining alternatively "inner" automorphisms? Why are normal subgroups so much more significant than other subgroups, closed under other automorphisms; can we justify conjugation's significance without hand-waving about later useful applications?
One of the most important ways of understanding groups is through their homomorphisms. For example, we tend not to consider groups up to isomorphism, which is defined as the existence of a bijective homomorphism between the groups. The first isomorphism theorem says that normal subgroups correspond to homomorphisms.
First Isomorphism Theorem. Let $G$ be a group. For every normal subgroup $N\lhd G$ there exists a group, written $G/N$, and a surjective homomorphism $\phi:G\to G/N$ such that $\ker(\phi)=N$.
Combining with the fact that the kernel of a homomorphism is necessarily normal, we therefore have a concrete equivalence between homomorphisms and normal subgroups.
(This is not "hand-waving about later useful applications", but the reason they are important!)
Subgroups which are closed under automorphisms are called characteristic. These are useful, but less so. For example, if $N$ is characteristic in $G$ then every automorphism of $G$ induces an automorphism of $G/N$, which is cute but also has hand-waving later applications in low dimensional topology and mapping class groups... :-)