I have been looking at certain collections of cardinals lately and am trying to figure out if they are sets or not.
Is it true, that if $P$ is some large cardinal property and there is some $\kappa_{\text{first}}$, for which this property holds, that the collection of cardinals $\mathcal{C} = \{\kappa \mid \kappa \text{ has not } P\}$ is a set? Can I argue that $\kappa_{\text{first}}$ must have greater cardinality than all elements of $\mathcal{C}$ and therefore contains $\mathcal{C}$ as a subset?
On the other hand, if I know that a collection of cardinals $\mathcal{D}$ contains cardinals of arbitrarily large cardinality, must $\mathcal{D}$ be a proper class? Is it sufficient to argue that if $\mathcal{D}$ was a set, then $\lambda = \sup{\mathcal{D}}^+$ would be a cardinal not in $\mathcal{D}$, but since $\mathcal{D}$ contains arbitrarily large cardinals, one of them would have cardinality greater than $\lambda$, which already yields a contradiction?
Tl;dr: A class of cardinals is a set iff it has an upper bound. The right-to-left direction follows from Separation applied to that upper bound, while the left-to-right direction is via the Burali-Forti paradox.
The answer to your second question is yes - any collection of cardinals without an upper bound is not a set. However, your argument isn't correct - in defining $\lambda$, you're assuming what you're trying to prove (that if $\mathcal{D}$ is a set, then it has a supremum). Instead, show that if there were an unbounded set of cardinals, then the class of ordinals would be a set - which violates the Burali-Forti argument.
Meanwhile, the answer to your first question is extremely negative: for instance, the successor of a cardinal with a large cardinal property $P$ tends not to have $P$ (e.g. the successor of an inaccessible is not inaccessible, the successor of a measurable is not measurable . . .). Similarly, most large cardinal properties imply regularity, that is, they fail for any singular cardinal - of which there are unboundedly many. So for any large cardinal property $P$ I'm aware of, ZFC proves that the collection of cardinals which don't have $P$ is unbounded, i.e. is a proper class.
The only exceptions I can think of are artificial - e.g. say that $\kappa$ is big if $\kappa$ is greater than an inaccessible. Then assuming there is an inaccessible, the collection of non-big cardinals is a set. But this is a very silly property. EDIT: See the comments below - shame on my failure of imagination!