If I consider the field extension $K=Q(\sqrt{5})$ and choose a basis , for example {$1,\sqrt{5}$} . I do not really understand the relation between calculating the discriminant of this basis and considering the discriminant of the minimal polynomial of $\sqrt{5}$ , i.e. $x^2-5$ . Is there any relation ? The discriminant is 20 .
Now the discriminant changes if I take another basis , for example the integral basis , {$1,\frac{1+\sqrt{5}}{2}$} . Then the discriminant is 5 .
or is it always if I consider the standard basis of K that the discriminant of the standard basis is equal to the discriminant of the minimal polynomial ?
I think it follows from Vandermonde determinant .
Is my problem clear ?
In this first part I am just presenting the general theory regarding discriminants. This is fairly well explained in textbooks and lecture notes on Algebraic Number Theory (see Robert Ash's notes or Milne's notes).
Given a number field $K$ with $n$ distinct embeddings in $\mathbb{C}$, you can define the discriminant of any set $\{b_1, b_2, \ldots, b_n\}$ of elements in $K$ (not necessarily a basis) as:
$$\text{disc}(b_1, b_2, \ldots, b_n) = \begin{vmatrix} \sigma_1(b_1) & \sigma_1(b_2) & \cdots & \sigma_1(b_n) \\ \sigma_2(b_1) & \sigma_2(b_2) & \cdots & \sigma_2(b_n) \\ \vdots & \vdots & \ddots & \vdots \\ \sigma_n(b_1) & \sigma_n(b_2) & \cdots & \sigma_n(b_n) \end{vmatrix}^2$$
Note that the discriminant is nonzero if and only if $\{b_1, b_2, \ldots, b_n\}$ is a basis of $K$. From now on, I only consider sets that are bases for $K$ (so they are linearly independent over $\mathbb{Q}$ and they span $K$).
For a different set $\{b_1', b_2', \ldots, b_n'\}$ of elements in $K$ related to $\{b_1, b_2, \ldots, b_n\}$ by the change-of-basis matrix $A$ with entries $a_{ij}$ in $\mathbb{Q}$, (i.e. $b_i = \sum\limits_{j=0}^n a_{ij}b_j'$ for all $i = 1, 2, \ldots, n$), you can relate the discriminants by the change of basis formula:
$$\text{disc}(b_1, b_2, \ldots, b_n) = \left(\det A\right)^2\text{disc}(b_1', b_2', \ldots, b_n')$$
Now we restrict to integral bases. A basis for $K$ given by $\{b_1, b_2, \ldots, b_n\}$ is an integral basis if it spans $\mathcal{O}_K$ as a $\mathbb{Z}$-module (i.e. every element of $\mathcal{O}_K$ is expressible uniquely as a linear combination of the $b_i$ where each coefficient is an integer).
You can show that the discriminant of any integral basis is the same. This follows from the previous formula, because the change-of-basis matrix $A$ must be invertible while having coefficients in $\mathbb{Z}$. Its determinant must then be $1$ or $-1$, and the square is always equal to $1$.
Therefore it makes sense to define the discriminant of the number field $K$, called $d_K$, as the discriminant of any of its integral bases.
If the integral basis is a power-basis (i.e., the integral basis is given by a set $\{1, \alpha, \alpha^2, \ldots, \alpha^{n-1}\}$) then you can show that the discriminant $d_K$ is the same as the discriminant of the minimal polynomial of $\alpha$ (applying the general formula for the discriminant, you end up with a Vandermonde determinant, just as you said). Note however that not every number field $K$ has an integral power basis, so you cannot always use discriminants of polynomials to calculate the discriminant of the number field.
In general, given a primitive element $\alpha$ of $K$ (i.e. $K = \mathbb{Q}(\alpha))$ and $\alpha \in \mathcal{O}_K$, you can say that the discriminant of the minimal polynomial of $\alpha$ is a square multiple of $d_K$. This follows from the change-of-basis formula applied to the set $\{1, \alpha, \alpha^2, \ldots, \alpha^{n-1}\}$ and any integral basis of $\mathcal{O}_K$. Only if the powers of $\alpha$ form an integral basis can you say that the discriminant of the minimal polynomial equals $d_K$.
To address your specific questions: the set $\{1, \sqrt{5}\}$ is a basis for $K = \mathbb{Q}(\sqrt{5})$. You can calculate the discriminant as:
$$\text{disc}(1, \sqrt{5}) = \begin{vmatrix} 1 & \sqrt{5} \\ 1 & -\sqrt{5} \end{vmatrix}^2 = 20$$
(it also follows from the discriminant of $X^2 - 5$ since this is a power basis).
However $\{1, \sqrt{5}\}$ is not an integral basis of $\mathcal{O}_K$. The ring of integers has an integral basis $\{1, \frac{1 + \sqrt{5}}{2}\}$. The discriminant of this basis is actually equal to $5$, which is a divisor of $20$. You can notice that the change-of-basis matrix from $\{1, \frac{1 + \sqrt{5}}{2}\}$ to $\{1, \sqrt{5}\}$ is given by $A = \begin{pmatrix}1 & 0 \\ -1 & 2\end{pmatrix}$ and the square of its determinant is $4$, so this follows from the change of basis formula.
One last thing I can add, is that a useful criterion for an integral basis is that if the discriminant of a basis (consisting of elements in $\mathcal{O}_K$) is square-free, then it must be an integral basis. This follows again from the change-of-basis formula, and the fact that any basis (consisting of elements in $\mathcal{O}_K$) which is not an integral basis will have a corresponding change-of-basis matrix $A$ with integer determinant larger than $1$ in magnitude. This allows us to prove that $\{1, \frac{1+\sqrt{5}}{2}\}$ is in fact an integral basis of $\mathcal{O}_K$, since its discriminant is $5$ which is square-free. Note that the converse is not necessarily true, though. You can have integral bases whose discriminant is not square-free.