We want to prove, for an $N\times N$ matrix $\Lambda$,
$$\Lambda_{ji}=-\Lambda_{ij}\implies\sum_{i,j=1 ; i\neq j}^N \Lambda_{ij}=0$$
My approach:
$$\sum_{i,j=1 ; i\neq j}^N \Lambda_{ij}=\sum_{i=1}^N\left[\sum_{j=1}^{i-1}\Lambda_{ij}+\sum_{j=i+1}^{N}\Lambda_{ij}\right]$$ $$=\sum_{i=1}^N\sum_{j=1}^{i-1}\Lambda_{ij}+\sum_{i=1}^N\sum_{j=i+1}^{N}\Lambda_{ij}$$ $$=\sum_{i=1}^N\sum_{j=1}^{i-1}\Lambda_{ij}-\sum_{i=1}^N\sum_{j=i+1}^{N}\Lambda_{ji}$$
Here, an appropriate change of indexes is needed to make the two sums identical so that we can merge them together and achieve a sum of zeros which equals zero.
But I cannot find that smart change of indexes. Can you help me?
Here is a calculation according to OPs approach avoiding also empty sums.
Comment:
In (1) we respect $1\leq i\ne j\leq n$ by setting the lower limit $i=2$ in the left sum and the upper limit $N-1$ in the right sum of the RHS.
In (2) we apply $\Lambda_{ij}=-\Lambda_{ji}$.
In (3) we exchange indices $i$ and $j$ in the right sum.
In (4) we use another notation of the index range which is helpful when exchanging the summation symbols.
In (5) we exchange the summation of the right sum.