In section 2.5 of do Carmo, given an embedded regular surface $S\subset\mathbb R^3$, the author defines the first fundamental form $\mathrm I_p:T_pS\to \mathbb R$ as the quadratic form $\mathrm I_p(w)= \left\langle w,w \right\rangle _{\mathbb R^3}$.
In a first course on differential geometry, the lecturer gave the same definition. I really feel I'm missing the the idea here, because it seems to me $\mathrm I_p$ "does not depend on $p$" in the sense the inner product stays the same. The lecturer said the whole point of the first fundamental form is to capture the local geometry of a regular surface at a given point in an intrinsic fashion, which definitely seems like a great thing, but the very definition seems to be independent of $p$. The only dependence is through the domain, but not the geometry.
A fellow student told me the dependence is through $E,F,G$, but I don't understand: While $E,F,G$ are calculated via parametrizations of coordinate neighborhoods of $p$, they must be independent of parametrization... Their definition uses an inner product which is the same at every $p$...
What am I missing here? What's the picture I should have in mind? I think I understand this answer, which explains in what says the fundamental form allows computations without further reference to an embedding in Euclidean space, but fear I am missing something else. (My fellow student spoke with confidence.)
While the inner product $\left< \cdot, \cdot \right>_{\mathbb{R}^3}$ doesn't change, if you think of the tangent space $T_pS$ as a subspace of $\mathbb{R}^3$, then $T_pS$ itself changes as $p$ moves around. The first fundamental form at two different points $p,q \in S$ tells you the restriction of the same object (the standard inner product of $\mathbb{R}^3$) to two different two-dimensional subspaces $T_pS, T_qS$ of $\mathbb{R}^3$.
How can you describe this dependence more concretely? By choosing a coordinate system $\varphi \colon V \rightarrow U \subseteq S$, we get two tangent vectors $\frac{\partial \varphi}{\partial x}(x,y), \frac{\partial \varphi}{\partial y}(x,y)$ at each point $\varphi(x,y) \in S$ that form a basis of $T_{\varphi(x,y)}S \subseteq \mathbb{R}^3$. This allows us to identify all the different subspaces $T_pS \subseteq \mathbb{R}^3$ with a single fixed subspace $\mathbb{R}^2$. Explicitly, we identify $(a,b) \in \mathbb{R}^2$ with $a \frac{\partial \varphi}{\partial x}(x,y) + b \frac{\partial \varphi}{\partial y}(x,y) \in T_{\varphi(x,y)} S$. Now, for each $(x,y)$ we can pull back the inner product from $T_{\varphi(x,y)} S$ to $\mathbb{R}^2$ using the identification and obtain an inner product $\left< \cdot, \cdot \right>_{(x,y)}$ on $\mathbb{R}^2$. Different points will give you different inner products that reflect both the fact that the tangent spaces in $\mathbb{R}^3$ have possibly changed and the specific way the coordinate system describes them. All this is encoded in a matrix
$$ \begin{pmatrix} E(x,y) & F(x,y) \\ F(x,y) & G(x,y) \end{pmatrix} $$
which describes the inner products $\left< \cdot, \cdot \right>_{(x,y)}$ in the sense that
$$ \left< (a,b), (c,d) \right>_{(x,y)} = (a,b) \begin{pmatrix} E(x,y) & F(x,y) \\ F(x,y) & G(x,y) \end{pmatrix} \begin{pmatrix} c \\ d \end{pmatrix} = \left< a \frac{\partial \varphi}{\partial x}(x,y) + b \frac{\partial \varphi}{\partial y}(x,y), c \frac{\partial \varphi}{\partial x}(x,y) + d \frac{\partial \varphi}{\partial y}(x,y) \right>_{\mathbb{R}^3}. $$
The quantities $E,F,G$ do depend on the parametrization (they aren't even defined without a parametrization). What doesn't depend on the parametrization is the first fundamental form.