My textbook says:
A deductive theory is said to be consistent if no two asserted statements of this theory contradict each other, or, in other words, if of any two contradictory sentences at least one cannot be proved.
The "in other words" is what confuses me, how can "no two asserted statements of this theory contradict each other" and "if of any two contradictory sentences at least one cannot be proved" mean the same thing? I've been stuck on this all day can you guys help me please? and please don't give me examples that are too complicated I just started studying logic
The confusion may be just the same as in your question about completeness:
The i.o.w. part of the definition has as its antecedent all the contradictory sentences that can possibly be built, not the ones that are already provable:
or equivalently.
Reformulating the first variant of the definition,
it becomes obvious that the one is just the contaposition of the other:
$P = $ both sentences are provable in the theory,
$\neg P = $ at least one sentence is not provable in the theory
$Q = $ the sentences do not contradict each other,
$\neg Q = $ the sentences contradict each other
Definition #1 = $P \to Q$
Definition #2 = $\neg Q \to \neg P$
Since contrapositive statements are logically equivalent, the two formulations mean the same thing.
But you are probably overthinking matters; the inutition behind consistency is quite simple: It just means that the theory doesn't assert anything contradictory, i.e. it never proves $\phi$ and $\neg \phi$ at the same time.