I'm given the following network: 
I'm attempting to build a network with maximum flow using weights 1-18 such that the loss of an individual node (not the source or sink) causes the least disruption to the flow.
I know that the max-flow min-cut theorem states that in any network, the value of any maximum flow is equal to the capacity of any minimum cut. With the out-degree of the source and in-degree of the sink to be maximized, I believe I'd want some combination of 18,13,14 coming out of $a$ and 12,17,16 into $j$, showing a capacity of 45.
However, from there I'm not sure. Any thoughts/directions?
There are four stages in this network, progressing from $A$, to $BCD$, to $EF$, to $GHI$, to $J$.
Among the 18 edges, you have a total of $\sum_{i=1}^{18}i=171$ units of flow to distribute around the network. Therefore it is not possible for each of the four stages to support a flow of 43, since $4*43=172$. So let's aim for a flow of 42.
Playing around with the numbers, it is not too hard to achieve this maximum, for example arranging the flows as follows:
(I hope the diagram is understandable...)
Notice that 9 appears twice in that diagram, and 12 does not appear. You can set either of the edges with flow 9 to a weight of 12 (it won't help the flow, but it means you are using each number from 1 to 18 exactly once).