The following first equality is intuitively evident: $$ \lim_{n\to \infty} \left(1+\frac{x+y+\frac{xy}{n}}{n}\right)^n = \lim_{n\to \infty} \left(1+\frac{x+y}{n}\right)^n =e^{x+y} $$ how can I give a formal argument?
Informally it is something like $$ \lim_{n\to \infty} \left(1+\frac{x+y+\frac{xy}{n}}{n}\right)^n =\lim_{n\to \infty} \left(1+\frac{\lim_{n\to \infty}\left(x+y+\frac{xy}{n}\right)}{n}\right)^n =\lim_{n\to \infty} \left(1+\frac{x+y}{n}\right)^n $$ Is there a "classical" property of sequences that backs this argument? Something like limit of composition, but here we speak of sequence only: $$ (b_n),\quad b_n \to b\quad\text{ for }n\to\infty \implies \lim_{n\to \infty} \left(1+\frac{b_n}{n}\right)^n =\lim_{n\to \infty} \left(1+\frac{b}{n}\right)^n $$
EDIT As Qiaochu Yuan is important to define what I have already defined. This computation is at the beginning of "Real Analysis", lets say in the chapter of sequences. Later, in the notes of complex analysis, I develop formal series with derivation and everything is the standard way (I think).
By this question I tried another approach, very early (1) define $$ e^x = \lim_{n\to\infty}\left(1+\frac{x}{n}\right)^n $$ (2) derive the product as depicted in this question (3) derive the derivation of the $e^x$.
Thus I have (a) no logarithm, (b) no derivation of $e^x$ yet.
You can use the basic fact that for any sequence $c_n \stackrel{n\to\infty}{\longrightarrow}0$ $(c_n \neq 0)$ you have
$$\left(1+c_n\right)^{\frac 1{c_n}}\stackrel{n\to\infty}{\longrightarrow}e$$
So with $c_n =\frac{b_n}n$ and $b_n \stackrel{n\to\infty}{\longrightarrow}b$, you get
\begin{eqnarray*} \left(1+c_n\right)^n & = & \left(\left(1+c_n\right)^\frac 1{c_n}\right)^{c_n\cdot n}\\ & = & \left(\left(1+c_n\right)^\frac 1{c_n}\right)^{b_n} \\ & \stackrel{n\to\infty}{\longrightarrow} & e^b \end{eqnarray*}
Here the continuity of $f(x,y) = x^y$ in both variables $x$ and $y$ is used which can easily be established considering,for example, first the logarithm of this function.
Hence, you have
$$\lim_{n\to\infty} \left(1+\frac{b_n}n\right)^n=e^b = \lim_{n\to\infty} \left(1+\frac{b}n\right)^n$$