The equation of the other parabola has to follow the form:
$4p(x – h) = (y – k)^2$
because it is a sideways parabola. I can see that the vertex is at (-4.5,18)
So then the equation would be $4p(x+4.5) = (y-18)^2$
Now I can just plug in a value like (4,5) for x and y in that equation and solve for p.
If I couldn't see the values of the vertex on the graph, how would I solve this problem?

Assuming the axis of the solid parabola is parallel to the $x$-axis...
Plug in the points. \begin{align*} 4 p(4 - h) &= (5 - k)^2 \text{,} \\ 4 p(-2 - h) &= (11 - k)^2 \text{, and} \\ 4 p(-4 - h) &= (21 - k)^2 \text{.} \end{align*} Then solve for $h$, $p$, and $k$. You'll discover $h \neq -4.5$.
(As a hint for solving: note that subtracting any of these from any of the others cancels the $k^2$ and the $-4ph$. In this way you can convert to three linear equations with two unknowns. Solve them, then plug back into any of the above to get the third.)