Let $p=7$, say. How complex is the theory of the field $(\mathbb Q_p,0,1,+,\cdot)$ ? One extreme would be that the theory is like $\mathbb R$: decidable
... admits quantifier elimination, is o-minimal. Do I need to include $\;<\;$ for $\mathbb R$ for these? Or is it enough that $<$ is definable in $(\mathbb R, 0,1,+,\cdot)$ ?
The other extreme would be that $\mathbb Z$ is definable in $\mathbb Q_p$, so the theory is as complex as the theory of $\mathbb Z$.
I thought of this when reading a recent question, asking whether $\mathbb C$ and $\mathbb C_p$ admit a Borel-measurable isomorphism.
There is a strong analogy between the model theory of $\mathbb{R}$ and the model theory of $\mathbb{Q}_p$. Here's a brief history of some of the main results (I've necessarily left a lot out, so I encourage others to edit and add to the list):
Regarding your side question: most model-theoretic notions are impervious to the exact choice of language, as long as the languages considered are interdefinable. This includes notions like decidability, dp-minimality, and NIP. Characterizations of definable sets, like o-minimality, are mostly language-independent, except that e.g. the definition of o-minimality requires the symbol $<$ to be in the language. On the other hand, quantifier elimination is highly sensitive to the choice of language.
So for $\mathbb{R}$, decidability (and dp-minimality, and NIP) holds in the language of rings, quantifier elimination does not hold in the language of rings, and it doesn't even make sense to ask about o-minimality in the language of rings.
P.S. Above I alluded to a theorem of Macintyre on fields admitting quantifier elimination. The original reference is On $\omega_1$-categorical theories of fields, 1971, where Macintyre proves that the following are equivalent for infinite fields (in the language of rings):
A simpler argument for the equivalence of (1) and (4) was given by Macintyre, McKenna, and van den Dries in Elimination of quantifiers in algebraic structures, 1983. The main results are the following: