Could someone please offer me proof and explanation of the following? - I am just having trouble with finding the '$a$' part of the equation.
"The leading coefficient '$a$' in the equation
$$y−y_1 = a(x−x_1)^{2}$$ indicates how "wide" and in what direction the parabola opens. It's always the reciprocal of $2$ times the distance from the directrix to the focus."
Thanks.
Your equation $y-y_1=a(x-x_1)^2$ comes from a horizontal directrix and a focus not on the directrix.
So given those requirements, let the focus be the point $(x_1,y_1+d/2)$ and the directrix be the line $y=y_1-d/2$, where $d\ne 0$. This will put the vertex of the parabola at $(x_1,y_1)$ and the distance between the focus and the directrix will be $|d|$. Then the parabola is the locus of points equidistant from the focus and the directrix. In other words, the distance of point $(x,y)$ to point $(x_1,y_1+d/2)$ equals the distance of point $(x,y)$ to the line $y=y_1-d/2$. Writing this as an equation,
$$\sqrt{(x-x_1)^2+(y-(y_1+d/2))^2}=|y-(y_1-d/2)|$$
Squaring each side, expanding the squared terms in $y$, and canceling equal terms gets us
$$(x-x_1)^2-dy+dy_1=dy-dy_1$$
which leads us to
$$y-y_1=\frac 1{2d}(x-x_1)^2$$
which is what you wanted. However, note the one mistake in the quote in your question. $a$ may not be "the reciprocal of 2 times the distance from the directrix to the focus." It may the negative of that reciprocal.
Here is some help in "expanding the squared terms in $y$". On the left hand side,
$$(y-(y_1+d/2))^2=y^2-2y(y_1+d/2)+(y_1+d/2)^2$$ $$=y^2-2yy_1-dy+y_1^2+dy_1+d^2/4$$
On the right hand side,
$$(y-(y_1-d/2))^2=y^2-2y(y_1-d/2)+(y_1-d/2)^2$$ $$=y^2-2yy_1+dy+y_1^2-dy_1+d^2/4$$