The Question
\begin{align}||\textbf{x}+\textbf{y}||^2+||\textbf{x}-\textbf{y}||^2&=\langle\textbf{x}+\textbf{y},\textbf{x}+\textbf{y} \rangle+\langle\textbf{x}-\textbf{y},\textbf{x}-\textbf{y} \rangle\\&=\langle\textbf{x},\textbf{x}+\textbf{y}\rangle+\langle\textbf{y},\textbf{x}+\textbf{y}\rangle+\langle\textbf{x},\textbf{x}-\textbf{y}\rangle-\langle\textbf{y},\textbf{x}-\textbf{y}\rangle\\&=\langle\textbf{x},\textbf{x}\rangle+\langle\textbf{x},\textbf{y}\rangle+\langle\textbf{y},\textbf{x}\rangle+\langle\textbf{y},\textbf{y}\rangle+\langle\textbf{x},\textbf{x}\rangle-\langle\textbf{x},\textbf{y}\rangle-\langle\textbf{y},\textbf{x}\rangle+\langle\textbf{y},\textbf{y}\rangle\\&=2\langle\textbf{x},\textbf{x}\rangle+2\langle\textbf{y},\textbf{y}\rangle\\&=2||\textbf{x}||^2+2||\textbf{y}||^2\end{align}
My Understanding
I understood how $\langle \textbf{x}+\textbf{y},\textbf{x}+\textbf{y}\rangle$ was expanded. I believe you take the $\textbf{x}$'s from each side and make them into a vector. Then the $\textbf{y}$'s. And then the $\textbf{x}$ from the first vector and $\textbf{y}$ from the second. And lastly the $\textbf{y}$ from the first vector and $x$ from the second. I repeated this same process for $\langle \textbf{x}-\textbf{y},\textbf{x}-\textbf{y}\rangle$ and got: $\langle \textbf{x},\textbf{x}\rangle+\langle -\textbf{y},-\textbf{y}\rangle+\langle \textbf{x},-\textbf{y}\rangle+\langle -\textbf{y},\textbf{x}\rangle$. How did they get a negative in front of the $\textbf{x}$? Also, why does $\langle -\textbf{y},-\textbf{y}\rangle$ become $\langle \textbf{y},\textbf{y}\rangle$?
This is due to two properties of the dot product:
So, $\langle x, \alpha y + \beta z\rangle=\langle \alpha y + \beta z, x\rangle^{*} = \alpha^{*}\langle y, x\rangle^{*} + \beta^{*}\langle z, x\rangle^{*} = \alpha^{*}\langle x, y\rangle + \beta^{*}\langle x, z\rangle$.