A partial order is a preorder with the following property:
$a\leq b \wedge b\leq a \implies a = b\quad(1)$
In my opinion, the following property it’s more intuitive:
$a\leq b \wedge b\leq c \implies a \neq c\quad(2)$
How do I prove they are equivalent?
First I start by saying $(1) \implies (2)$
$\lnot \big( (1) \land \lnot (2) \big)=\lnot(1)\lor(2) =$
$\lnot(a\leq b \land b\leq a\implies a=b)\lor(2)=$
$\lnot\Big(\lnot\big((a\leq b\land b\leq a)\land\lnot(a=b)\big)\Big)\lor(2)=$
$\big((a\le b\land b\le a)\land\lnot(a=b)\big)\lor(2)=$
$(a\le b\land b\le a \land a\ne b)\lor(2)=$
$(a\le b\land b\le a \land a\ne b)\lor\lnot\big((a\le b \land b \le c)\land\lnot(a\ne c)\big) = $
$(a\le b\land b\le a \land a\ne b)\lor\big(\lnot(a\le b \land b \le c)\lor(a\ne c)\big) = \quad ...$
I’m kind of stuck there. Is there a way to continue showing that this is a tautology?
Your alternative doesn't work, since a partial order is reflexive, and so if you pick $a=b=c$, then with your suggestion you get $a \not = a$, which is a contradiction.