Let $E$ be an Euclidian oriented vector space of dimension $3$ and $x,y,u,w \in E$.
How do we prove (without coodinates) $$ \det \begin{pmatrix} \langle x,u \rangle & \langle x,w \rangle \\ \langle y,u \rangle & \langle y,w \rangle \\ \end{pmatrix} = \langle x \times y, u \times w \rangle$$
This equality is claimed in this proof of the double cross product formula.
Related : wiki claims that the Gram determinant is equal to : $Gram(x_1,\dots,x_n) = \| x_1 \wedge \dots \wedge x_n \|^2$
How is defined the norm on the exterior product, and how to prove this formula ?
I'm not really sure if you can prove it or simply take it as definition of the scalar product. You can derive it from the definition of a scalar product on the tensor space.
Or just notice that the Gramian determinant $$ \det\begin{pmatrix} \langle x,u \rangle & \langle x,w \rangle \\ \langle y,u \rangle & \langle y,w \rangle \\ \end{pmatrix} $$ is already symmetric in $x∧y$ and $u∧w$. Considering it as a function in $x$ and $y$, $$ \phi(x,y)=\det\begin{pmatrix} \langle x,u \rangle & \langle x,w \rangle \\ \langle y,u \rangle & \langle y,w \rangle \\ \end{pmatrix} $$ one notices that it is bilinear, anti-symmetric, and so (extendable as) a linear form on $\Lambda^2E$. Further, $$ \phi(u,w)=\langle u,u \rangle \langle w,w \rangle - \langle u,w \rangle^2=\|u\|^2\|w-\lambda u\|^2 $$ where $λ=\frac{\langle u,w \rangle}{\|u\|^2}$, tells us that this quadratic form is the square of the area of the parallelogram spanned by $u$ and $v$, which proves its positive definiteness.
Of course, all this reasoning is greatly simplified by using the Binet-Cauchy-formulas for the coordinates of the vectors.