By numerical experimentation I found that $$ \lim_{\beta \rightarrow \infty} \frac 1 \beta \int_0^{\beta}dx \int_0^{\beta}dy \, f\left( |x-y| \right) = 2\int_0^{\infty}dx \, f(x) $$ if $f:\mathbb{R} \rightarrow \mathbb{R} $ goes to zero sufficiently fast etc.
How can we prove this identity (I am happy with a hint/sketch) and what is its geometrical meaning? Are there generalizations?
My own attempt: write the double integral on the left-hand side as $$ \int_0^{\beta}dx \int_0^{x}dy \, f\left( x-y \right) + \int_0^{\beta}dx \int_x^{\beta}dy \, f\left( y-x \right) \\= \int_0^{\beta}dx \int_0^{x}dy \, f\left( x-y \right) + \int_0^{\beta}dy \int_0^{y}dx \, f\left( y-x \right) \\= 2 \int_0^{\beta}dx \int_0^{x}dy \, f\left( x-y \right). $$ Not sure what do do next.
Let us try the change of variables $$(x, \delta) = (x,x-y)$$ so that $$ \int g(x,y) dxdy = 2 \int g(x, x-\delta) dx d\delta $$
Application:
$$ \frac1\beta\int_{[0,\beta]^2} f(|x-y| ) dxdy = \frac1\beta\int_{[0,\beta]} dx \int_{x-\beta}^x d\delta f(|\delta| )\\ = \frac1\beta\int_{[-\beta,\beta]} d\delta \int_{\max(0,\delta)}^ {\min(\beta + \delta, \beta)} dx f(|\delta| ) \\= \frac1\beta\int_{[-\beta,0]} d\delta \int_{0}^{\beta + \delta} dx f(|\delta| ) + \frac1\beta\int_{[0,\beta]} d\delta \int_{\delta}^{\beta} dx f(|\delta| )\\= \int_{-\beta}^0 \frac{\beta + \delta}\beta f(-\delta)d\delta + \int_0^\beta \frac{\beta - \delta}\beta f(\delta)d\delta\\= 2 \int_0^\beta \frac{\beta - \delta}\beta f(\delta)d\delta $$
which converges under some conditions (for example: $f\ge 0$) to $$ 2 \int_0^\infty f(\delta)d\delta $$