Let ${\bf r}$ a position vector. How can I prove this?
$$({\bf r}\times\nabla)\cdot ({\bf r}\times\nabla)=r^2\nabla\cdot\nabla-r^2\frac{\partial^2}{\partial^2r}-2r\frac{\partial}{\partial r}$$
My efforts:
First note that $({\bf r}\times\nabla)\cdot ({\bf r}\times\nabla)={\bf r}\cdot(\nabla\times ({\bf r}\times\nabla))$. Now, for BAC-CAB identity we have $${\bf r}\cdot(\nabla\times ({\bf r}\times\nabla))={\bf r}\cdot[\nabla\cdot\nabla {\bf r}-\nabla(\nabla\cdot{\bf r})] $$.
What are ${\bf r}\cdot\nabla\cdot\nabla {\bf r}$ and ${\bf r}\cdot\nabla(\nabla\cdot{\bf r})? $
It always help to use tensor notation and the completely antisymmetric tensor to deal with cross products. If you don't know what I am talking about, I think you will benefit very much from a quick study about this convention.
That done, you can write
$ (r \times \nabla) \cdot (r \times \nabla) $
as
$ e^{ijk} r_j \partial_k e^{ilm} r_l \partial_m $
And use the always helpful identity:
$ e^{ijk} e^{ilm} = \delta_j^l \delta_k^m - \delta_j^m \delta_k^l $
Relating the product of the completely antissimetric tensors with the kronecker delta. Now:
$ e^{ijk} r_j \partial_k e^{ilm} r_l \partial_m = e^{ijk} e^{ilm} r_j \partial_k (r_l \partial_m) = e^{ijk} e^{ilm} [ r_j (\partial_k r_l) \partial_m + r_j r_l \partial_k \partial_m ] $
$ (\delta_j^l \delta_k^m - \delta_j^m \delta_k^l) [ r_j (\partial_k r_l) \partial_m + r_j r_l \partial_k \partial_m ] = r_j (\partial_k r_j) \partial_k + r_j r_j \partial_k \partial_k - r_j (\partial_k r_k) \partial_j - r_j r_k \partial_k \partial_j $
Now, we use that $ \partial_i r_j = \delta_i^j $:
$ r_j (\partial_k r_j) \partial_k + r_j r_j \partial_k \partial_k - r_j (\partial_k r_k) \partial_j + r_j r_k \partial_k \partial_j = r_j \partial_j + r_j r_j \partial_k \partial_k - 3 r_j \partial_j - r_j r_k \partial_j \partial_k $
$ = r_j r_j \partial_k \partial_k - 2 r_j \partial_j - r_j r_k \partial_j \partial_k $
Rewriting that in vector notation would depend on some rather awkward notational definitions, but using the ones you wrote, this is exactly
$ r^2 \nabla^2 - 2 r \partial_r - r^2 \partial_r ^2 $