I've taken a linear algebra course in the past, but I feel my understanding of coordinate change is very superficial. For example this exercise (4.7.1 from Lay's "Linear Algebra and its Applications" 4. edition):
Let $\mathcal{B}={\{ \bf{b_1,b_2} \}}$ and $\mathcal{C}={\{ \bf{c_1,c_2} \}}$ be bases for a vector space V, and suppose $\bf{b_1}=6\bf{c_1}-2\bf{c_2}$ and $\bf{b_2}=9\bf{c_1}-4\bf{c_2}$.
a. Find the change-of-coordinates matric from $\mathcal{B}$ to $\mathcal{C}$.
b. Find $[\bf{x}]_\mathcal{C} =-3\bf{b_1}+2\bf{b_2}$.
I can solve a. because I remember that $P_{\mathcal{C}\leftarrow\mathcal{B}}=\bf{[[b_1]_\mathcal{C}\,\,[b_1]_\mathcal{C}]}$ and that $\bf{[b_1]_\mathcal{C}}$ is the 'weights on the linear combination of $\mathcal{C}$-vectors'.
I can also solve b. because I remember that $[\bf{x}]_\mathcal{C}=P_{\mathcal{C}\leftarrow\mathcal{B}}[\bf{x}]_\mathcal{B} $
So I know how to apply the equations, but I feel that if I had a good mental model of what's going on here, it would be obvious that $\left(\begin{array}{rr} 6 & 9 \\ -2 & -4 \end{array}\right)$ is the matrix I'm looking for.
In my own experience, usually, if I learn something well I can construct the formulas I don't remember from reasoning, but here I fail, so I've literally spent all day trying to think up some analogy that would let me do the abovementioned exercise without remembering the formulas, here's what I've come up with so far:
$[\bf{x}]_\mathcal{B} $ is like a recipe for how much of the vectors of $\mathcal{B}$ you need to get to some point. So, how much of $\mathcal{C}$ do you need to get to $\bf{b_1}$? You need $\left[\begin{array}{rr} 6 \\ -2 \end{array}\right]=[\bf{b_1}]_\mathcal{C}$. How much of $\mathcal{C}$ do you need to get to $\bf{b_2}$? You need $\left[\begin{array}{rr} 9 \\ -4 \end{array}\right]=[\bf{b_2}]_\mathcal{C}$. Thus any "$\mathcal{B}$-recipe" $\left[\begin{array}{rr} r_1 \\ r_2 \end{array}\right]$ will in our case become a "$\mathcal{C}$-recipe" when we multiply it with $\left(\begin{array}{rr} 6 & 9 \\ -2 & -4 \end{array}\right)$, because the result will tell us "how much of $\mathcal{C}$ to get to $\bf{b_1}$ and $\bf{b_2}$, and then how much of these two to get to some new point". But it's been 'how much to use of $\mathcal{C}$-vectors' all the way this time, so our result has to be some $[\bf{x}]_\mathcal{C}$.
My question: What is a nice way to think about change between bases when neither is the standard one? Just looking for any way to think about this at any level of sophistication.
Suppose you have a vector $\mathbf{x}$ whose components are $(x_B, y_B)$ in the $B$-basis. This means that $$ \mathbf{x} = x_B\mathbf{b}_1 + y_B\mathbf{b}_2 $$ But we know that $\mathbf{b_1}=6\mathbf{c_1}-2\mathbf{c_2}$ and $\mathbf{b_2}=9\mathbf{c_1}-4\mathbf{c_2}$, so $$ \mathbf{x} = x_B(6\mathbf{c_1}-2\mathbf{c_2}) + y_B(9\mathbf{c_1}-4\mathbf{c_2}) $$ Rearranging gives $$ \mathbf{x} = (6x_B + 9y_B )\mathbf{c_1} + (-2x_B - 4y_B)\mathbf{c_2} $$ But, by definition, the coefficients of $\mathbf{c_1}$ and $\mathbf{c_2}$ on the right-hand side are just $x_C$ and $y_C$, so $$ x_C = 6x_B + 9y_B \\ y_C = -2x_B - 4y_B $$ The "change of basis" matrix is just a slick way of writing these last two equations as one: $$ \left[\matrix{ x_C \\ y_C}\right] = \left[\matrix{ 6 & 9 \\ -2 & -4}\right] \left[\matrix{ x_B \\ y_B}\right] $$ And the formula you memorized is just a slick way of getting the results I obtained from first principles. There's no magic in the matrix, it's just a convenient notation that saves you some writing.